Margaret Farley's 'Discerning Obligation: A Love'
06-25-13
Prof. Rosemarie Gorman
Essay Paper
Personal Commitments
In this essay I will try to analyze two topics from the book, “Personal Commitments by Margaret Farley.” The first topic will discuss, “The Way of Fidelity.”, the second topic will be, “Discerning Obligation: A Love.”
There are two situations when there is a need for and sense for fidelity, in a love relationship, and a commitment or promise made to a person or institution. According to Farley sense of duty is not the only thing that fidelity is based on. Especially in a commitment to love where in some cases couples hope for love to help carry on and solve their problems, for love to exceed the need to be bounded to a relationship, pg 49.
In a promise made to a person or institution fidelity could help reinforce the decision making, whether one can make a promise and keep it or not. Inside …show more content…
They have an underlying belief that what is here is not good enough, and what is somewhere else is better. This basic assumption about life: Whatever is happening now is not it. It is somewhere else, with its meaning ultimate happiness and contentment, which is a problem for couples or business deals.
This problem assumes that because it perceives whatever is happening as not good enough, it is, in fact, not good enough. It then concludes that must mean there is something else that will be good enough. A person with doubts begins to imagine that one day it will find peace and happiness because life will finally line up correctly. Those who cannot commit are continually waiting for life to line up, to fall into place, and they are quite sure that future vision does not look like whatever life looks like now.
The funny thing is that life never does line up for anyone. It has a habit of perceiving life as imperfect, even when it is quite ideal. In any event, life is not meant to be
Prof. Rosemarie Gorman
Essay Paper
Personal Commitments
In this essay I will try to analyze two topics from the book, “Personal Commitments by Margaret Farley.” The first topic will discuss, “The Way of Fidelity.”, the second topic will be, “Discerning Obligation: A Love.”
There are two situations when there is a need for and sense for fidelity, in a love relationship, and a commitment or promise made to a person or institution. According to Farley sense of duty is not the only thing that fidelity is based on. Especially in a commitment to love where in some cases couples hope for love to help carry on and solve their problems, for love to exceed the need to be bounded to a relationship, pg 49.
In a promise made to a person or institution fidelity could help reinforce the decision making, whether one can make a promise and keep it or not. Inside …show more content…
They have an underlying belief that what is here is not good enough, and what is somewhere else is better. This basic assumption about life: Whatever is happening now is not it. It is somewhere else, with its meaning ultimate happiness and contentment, which is a problem for couples or business deals.
This problem assumes that because it perceives whatever is happening as not good enough, it is, in fact, not good enough. It then concludes that must mean there is something else that will be good enough. A person with doubts begins to imagine that one day it will find peace and happiness because life will finally line up correctly. Those who cannot commit are continually waiting for life to line up, to fall into place, and they are quite sure that future vision does not look like whatever life looks like now.
The funny thing is that life never does line up for anyone. It has a habit of perceiving life as imperfect, even when it is quite ideal. In any event, life is not meant to be