Myers et al., (2005) studied individuals in India living in arranged marriages and found no differences in marital satisfaction in comparison to individuals in non-arranged marriages in the US. This is also supported by Gupta and Singh (1982) who studied 100 degree-educated couples living in India, 50 of who had chosen their partners and 50 of who had their marriages arranged for them. The couples were asked to indicate how much they liked/loved their partners and it was found that love and liking was high in love marriages but decreased whereas love increased in arranged marriages and after 10 years exceeded love marriages. However, this study is difficult to generalise as it studies only a small sample and so cannot be generalised to the wider population. It therefore lacks validity.…
In chapter thirteen, Susan J. Ferguson talks about arranged marriages and how love come from that. I have mix feeling about arranged marriages because it could either go a bad way or you could find the person of your dreams. One of my best friend is from the middle east and that is somehow acceptable or common in her culture. But from what she has tell me is common but not everyone does it because in her religion you cannot force someone to get marry. However, her family does not have any arranged family between them, it depends on your family traditions. In America, we do not have arranged marriages. We go by who we love,does not matter they passes life, family or financial status. Something that people who believe in arrange marriages see.…
Serena Nanda fails to write an impartial argument for arranged marriages versus "love match" marriages like those in the United States. She neglects to present the positive aspects of choosing a partner for marriage opting instead to keep the focus on the negatives. Her argument for arranged marriages is weak and unfocused leaving the reader to doubt her logic. In her attempt to persuade the reader to supporting arranged marriages, she actually emphasizes the negative effects of them. Reading Arranging A Marriage in India, strengthens the idealistic values of romantic love and exposes the flaws of arranged marriage including the extreme limitation of potential partners, inexperience and ignorance of the people, excessively traditional and sexist…
In the article “I’m Happy with an Arranged Marriage” by Gitangeli Sapra it discusses her view of arranged marriages. Ms. Gitangeli is for arranged marriage, she stated that people who get married for “love” has a 40% rate of divorce. She also states that arranged marriages have a lower rate of divorce for the fact that the couples do not want to start a wrath between their families.…
To have a successful and lasting marriage, the individuals involved must lay a foundation consisting of key components to make it last. A format and set of rules must be followed or established in order to make it a success. Sadly, today, because of the current high divorce rate, which is about 50%, couples constantly face marriage problems and marriage issues constantly arise. In unhappy couples the main focus is mainly on reciprocating negatively, in which a positive end-result is hard to procure. While on the other end of the spectrum, in happy couples, the main focus is to progress and to incorporate benchmarks to grow more as one. It’s the emotional feelings invested that will generate a positive outcome if a proper foundation of components is laid out from the beginning. The main focus throughout this paper will be to discuss how a successful marriage is achieved and the key components needed to achieve such a task.…
13-* Marriage and Its Discontents Great majority of individuals marry at least once 40 to 50% of first marriages in US end in divorce – Post-divorce decline in economic circumstances – Emotional and behavioral difficulties for children Theories of marital harmony and discord – Disillusionment model: Romantic notions dashed – Maintenance hypothesis: Romantic couples work to maintain illusions and therefore marriage – Social exchange/behavioral theories: Marriage fails when problems become overwhelming, or because of inadequate for coping – Intrapersonal models: Attachment and temperament explain marital success or failure Broderick & Blewitt, The Life Span: Human Development for Helping Professionals, 4th Ed. 13-* Marriage: Keeping Love Alive Existing models do not adequately explain success …
It is natural for everyone to need or have or want a companion to shares their lives with. It is thought normal of young adults to want a spouse and a family of their own. In relationships it is that passion “falling in love” is the dominant aspect of young adults (Berger, 2010, p.412) Intimacy is when two people know each other well enough to share secrets, as well as engage in sexual activity. Commitment is more time consuming and requires work, dedication, shares possessions, in some cases child-rearing responsibilities, and the capacity to forgive. In some international familes arranged marriages commitment is first before intimacy and passion. Domestic violence sometimes occurs but male figures of the bride usually oversees common ground is the husband is too demanding. Arranged marriages hardly ever do divorce, there’s tremendous effort in keeping the family together as well as social and family support is offered.…
Some people believe in love at first sight, while others believe it takes time to love someone. In life having a companion is a very important factor. It’s hard to form a good relationship right when you meet that person. A marriage is a way for two people that are in love to show everyone, family and friends that they plan on being fully committed to one another for the rest of their lives. Typically marriages are left up to the two people that are getting married, but in special cases it is ultimately the parents’ decision. In the United States we have a general outlook on how life should be which when compared to another society can be completely different. In Katie Chase’s story Man and Wife an arranged marriage…
An arranged marriage is a way of uniting and maintaining the difference between the rich upper class society and the poor lower class society.…
verview Americans love books and movies that end with a couple exchanging vows and going on to live “happily ever after.” We cry at weddings, and we admire couples of whom it can be said, “They have a great marriage.” And young people today continue to place great importance on a good marriage and family life.1 At the same time, a considerable number of contemporary Americans have deep reservations about their prospects for marriage, the quality of a marriage they might enter, and the odds that their marriage will last.2 Some even raise concerns that marriage can be a trap and can expose women to domestic violence.3 Despite these divergent views and concerns, there is a lot of common ground. Most people, including unmarried parents, value marriage and want to be married.4 Moreover, research indicates that children thrive best when raised by both biological married parents,5 as long as the marriage is not high-conflict.6 Thus, for the sake of adults, children, and society, a growing consensus is emerging that it is not just marriage per se that matters, but healthy marriage.7 But what is a healthy marriage? This Research Brief addresses that question by examining the concept of healthy marriage and the elements that, taken together, help to define it, such as commitment, marital satisfaction, and communication, as well as two elements that pose obvious threats to healthy marriage: violence and infidelity. This brief also considers factors that are antecedents and consequences of healthy marriage and distinguishes these from the definition of a healthy marriage. The result is a conceptual…
Marriage was synonymous with maternity. But the pain, the suffering, the wrecked lives of women and children that such a system caused, show us that it did not work successfully. Like all other professions, motherhood must serve its period of apprenticeship.…
Arranged marriages are able to last because "the integrity, values and belief system of the family guide them." (Habib, K16) "Ninety five per cent of all marriages in India are arranged. It's believed they are more successful than marriages in the west (the divorce rate is as low as five per cent, a fraction of the rate in North America) because real love flows from a properly arranged marriage union between two people and romantic love does not necessarily lead to a good marriage and often fails once the passion dissipates." (Habib, K16) Love is learned as the ties to the marriage partner grow. Passionate love is a poor foundation on which to base a life-long partnership.…
Arranged marriages are also common in Hindu society. In an arranged marriage it is the elders of a family who decide the bride or the groom for their children. Although earlier this was done without the consent of the bride, that culture is changing now. In today’s society the bride and the groom usually meet a few times and then come to a decision about whether they should marry. Even now it is usually the elders of the family who first find out about the prospective bride or groom and then introduce them to their children. Arranged marriages are fixed after looking in various aspects of the potential bride and groom like their education, wealth, social standing, caste and astrological compatibility.…
In the past when talking about marriages, more specifically arranged marriages your parents could force you to marry someone and you would stay in that marriage even if you were unhappy. As times are changing, more and more people are looking for that special one person that makes them so happy they want to spend the rest of their lives with them. For some people they get it right on the first try, but with others it takes some time after the marriage to realise that they made a mistake and quickly decide to separate or divorce their spouse. Other people just stop loving the person they married altogether and that is when the marital problems start.…
So , if I on their situation I would prefer arrange marriage than love marriage it is because we can get a lot in arrange marriage. We can focus more on family view. . Since the wishes of parents and family members are considered or even followed when choosing a partner, there will be less danger of quarrel and discord within the family. Above all, arranged marriages are less about passion and romance and more about starting a family. They will start to know each other so that the love will occur slowly and will last forever till the end.…