I am open-minded, so I think I will give the married life a ride. My parents have been married for 30 years. They say they have their ups and downs but have enjoyed their life together. I hope that when I get married my married life is as long and wonderful as my parents’ continues to be. It is unloving and disrespectful to not listen, especially to those you "love" and who you want to love you. It also destroys the relationship as you and they wish it to be. To reduce your frustration and pain frequency, and improve your life and be really loved and loving, decide to apply your actions and all your energy to doing what is necessary to listen, honor and really love them. Ask the same from them but do not make this a competition. Let your own commitment and improvement of your listening and relationship behavior give them reason to listen to you. Or to know they really don 't care about you. At least you 'll know and be able to stop expecting what you 'll never get from them. As very sad as that will feel, and I have personal experience with this sad truth, it gives you freedom to see how you wish to go forward with your life with that answer. You may want to stay in a marriage with someone who doesn 't care about how they treat you. (www.marriedforlife.com) Rules For A Happy Married Life
[1] Never both be angry at once.
[2] Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.
[3] Yield to the wishes of the other as an exercise in self-discipline if you can 't think of a better reason.
[4] If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate.
References: www.marriedforlife.net Listening, Frustrations, Love and Reality Rosalinda (2008) www.members.tripod.com Rules for A Happy Life The Life Center (2009) www.thesinglelife.net A Niner Niner Blog (2009)