Modern Love 'And Hills Like White Elephants'

Male / Female Relationship In a male/female relationship it is said that both of them are doomed to understand each other. Its partially true because being different genders one will always think differently. There will always be arguments in deciding one thing or another. Two examples that show how decisions are being made by both male and female are in “Modern Love” and “Hills like white elephants”. Both genders have difficulties in agreeing with things, but eventually one of them will agree and give up deciding to go with whatever it is their loved one wants. Usually that is when the relationship between a male and female couple is good. Even though there is differences in a relationship, they tend to make things work out because of the
importance of understanding one another. It is hard to agree or understand the opposite sex.
Not understanding the opposite sex does not mean we no longer are attracted to it. Even though it is hard, we are attracted enough that we end up trying to figure out how to make the opposite sex happy. That is the way it always is in a relationship between a male and a female. When in a relationship there are arguments and difficult decisions to make. Trying to figure out the right way to go can sometimes make the couple argue and fight. In order for the couple to stop arguing one of them will need to give up and go with what their loved one says. This happened in the story “Modern Love” by author T.C Boyle. This story is about a couple that had different opinions about germs and becoming sick. The female by the name Breda was obsessed with germs and becoming contemned by anything. He did not like how obsessive she was, but loved her and put up with it. He accepted every thing she wanted. He did not understand why she was the way she was, but because he loved her he accepted her for who she was and avoided arguing with her. This is how a relationship between a male and female should be, but because of differences that both sexes have relationships struggle and unfortunately
end. If male and females were doomed and did not understand each other then life wouldn’t be the way it is. Every situation in life have to do with agreeing to what a person says. Most of the time it is a person from the opposite sex. For example, in a job the manager is a male or female and has employees of both genders working with them. At one point or the other the manager will need to speak to the employee of the opposite sex, and will need to agree with simple things such as the schedule or uniform. If male and females did not agree there would be conflicts all the time. Another example would be in the story “Hills Like White Elephants” by Ernest Hemingway where a couple is deciding to have an abortion. The male says to his female partner “I think it’s the best thing to do. But I don’t want you to do it if you don’t really want to.” showing that he supports his partner in what ever she decides. There will be arguments, but like mentioned before if one gives up and decides to go with what ever his or her partner wants more than likely that couples relationship is good because they love and understand each other. The opposite sex tends to be attracted to the other. When in a relationship it can be that both male and female do not understand each other and can argue. But if both male and female love each other, they will try their hardest to understand and make things work. I belive that if males and females did not understand each other at all, it would be difficult to live life. At all times male and females are interacting socially, emotionally, and in many ways which make it impossible not to understand each other. In most relationships one of them will do the necessary for the other to understand or agree with them.