My Child Is Correcting Me Analysis
Meagan Washington Psyc 300 MW 10:30 a.m.
Why Does My Child Keep Correcting Me?
Don’t judge on what is not understood; yet take the time to understand. The article titled “Why Does My Child Keep Correcting Me” is about parents who have to deal with the fact that their children may have Aspergers Syndrome. Aspergers is a disorder in which a person regardless of age has the compulsion to always correct someone and they must be right all the time. An idea is presented, if it didn’t not come from them then it is not right. When our little ones do something …show more content…
naughty or want to learn something, at first it’s the cutest thing in the world. Since they are praised for it or told that it’s ok, they believe you. So what happens, they continue to the point of where it’s annoying and you would do anything just to get them to stop.
Everyone has his or her own definition of what normal is. What is normal or cute to someone may be weird or not cut to another. Its up to a person as an individual to pay attention so specific clues to figure out or rather understand different types of people and realize that most issues begin in childhood, yet by the time a child is 18 what once was cute is now annoying. It really takes a lot to understand where people are coming from, why they act the way they do, how different disorders affect their lives. Is it worth hurting people though just to get them to hear what you have to say? It is to a Person with Aspergers. What is said is more important that what the person being told the information understands. What’s even more challenging is learning to put up with it and a way to get through that is love and patience.
The article is more difficult than it appears to be to understand. At first it appears to be about children with Aspergers syndrome and then as it continues, it talks about infants up to adult hood and understanding those with the disorder and those without and how everyone should deal with it. If everyone were to go by the article then it would seem that everybody has this syndrome.
Think about it.
Everyone gets to a point where they want to be right or they believe that their way is the only right way. However when it gets to the point of where it’s a compulsion then it’s a problem. Compulsion meaning that they must be right ALL the time. People like this are the most annoying people ever. What’s interesting though is that there is a disorder basically excusing people like that. This doesn’t seem psychological and then this was supposed to be about children but was turned around to center on adults. Another thing, does this mean that abusive people are excused also? Those who are abusive have to be right all the time; they just beat their views into someone. I was abused for 13 years straight, every type of abuse you can think of I have been through, so are those people who abused me excused because they may have had this syndrome and not know it? I don’t think …show more content…
so.
Maybe I don’t understand the whole concept or how they actually can tell the difference, but for now I think this whole thing is all just a whole lot of pop psychology. There are so many different opinions that were formed by not only psychologist but medical doctors as well. Some seem to agree that this actually is a disorder, while others think that it is something that was made up.
Lets look at this from a medical perspective. Supposedly, people with Aspergers have bigger brains. The reason for the bigger brain is that the amygdala is larger than normal. The amygdala is a section in the brain that is responsible for controlling the emotions of fear and aggression. Therefore if the person has a large amygdala, they embrace the extra aggression and feel all the more need to be in control of everything. Now lets see the psychological side of things or at least try to. Some say that there is a distinct difference between normal people and those with Aspergers. The only way to see that difference though was to put yourself in the place of someone with disorder and see how a day living like that was. Basically experiment and see your results. So that’s just what I did. On Thursday April 3, 2008 I was a person with Aspergers syndrome. I corrected everyone, made sure my point got across, wouldn’t listen to anyone elses ideas, but made sure that mine were the only right ones.
I sure did seem to make a lot of enemies that day. Those that were the same as I was thought that it was cool that I was acting just like them. To others though it was annoying and upsetting. I actually had someone tell me to get away from them. Doing this experiment though only left me more confused though. All I really understood was that some people were bossy and others were not. I still didn’t see how it was classified as a disorder.
To me it seems to be the fussy- fuzzy phenomenon.
That is when people are talking to you what seems to be most important to them. If they are fussy then they are just interested in getting their point across rather then let whomever they are talking to understand them. A fuzzy person is the opposite. It’s more important to have whomever they are talking to understand where they are coming from. Or another way to look at it is that someone will be talking about a topic that they really don’t want to talk about, but they feel the need to be talking or fitting in with whoever is around them.
They say that having Aspergers is like constantly acting like an overactive eighteen-month-old baby. They try to correct you, don’t mean to but do. Now I understand a baby doing it, but an adult there is no way that you can excuse that unless they possibly have other disorders as well and they just cant help acting that way. I have much respect for those who have to deal with people with this disorder because honestly I don’t think that I
could.
Maybe I just still don’t understand the full concept of the disorder, but someone who was bossy all the time rather it was excused or not I just couldn’t deal with it. It seems as though the world is just now beginning to understand this disorder. Until I came across this article I had never heard of it, yet being a psychology major I hope to learn much more about it Aspergers and all the other disorders.
Bibliography
Children raised by lesbian couples aren't disadvantaged. (2001, December). Ana nova. Retrieved December 21, 2004, from http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm%5f482039.html
Amer, D. H., Hu, S., Magnuson, V. L., Hu, N., & Pattatucci, A. M. (1993, July 16). A linkage between DNA markers on the X chromosome and male sexual orientation. Science, 261, 321-327.
Urtz, S. N. (2000, September). What is wrong with gay marriage? Commentary, pp. 35-41.
Moore, D.W., & Carroll, J. (2004, May 17). Support for gay marriage/civil union’s edges upward: Public remains divided on constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage. Retrieved May 18, 2004, from http://www.gallup.com/content/default.aspx?ci=11689%26pg=1
Wright, E. (2004, January). The gaying of America: 2003 in review. Lesbian News, p. 21.
Hebl, M. R., Foster, J. B., Mannix, L. M., & Dovidio, J. F. (2002). Formal and interpersonal discrimination: A field study of bias toward homosexual applicants. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28, 815-825.
Why Does My Child Keep Correcting Me?
Don’t judge on what is not understood; yet take the time to understand. The article titled “Why Does My Child Keep Correcting Me” is about parents who have to deal with the fact that their children may have Aspergers Syndrome. Aspergers is a disorder in which a person regardless of age has the compulsion to always correct someone and they must be right all the time. An idea is presented, if it didn’t not come from them then it is not right. When our little ones do something …show more content…
naughty or want to learn something, at first it’s the cutest thing in the world. Since they are praised for it or told that it’s ok, they believe you. So what happens, they continue to the point of where it’s annoying and you would do anything just to get them to stop.
Everyone has his or her own definition of what normal is. What is normal or cute to someone may be weird or not cut to another. Its up to a person as an individual to pay attention so specific clues to figure out or rather understand different types of people and realize that most issues begin in childhood, yet by the time a child is 18 what once was cute is now annoying. It really takes a lot to understand where people are coming from, why they act the way they do, how different disorders affect their lives. Is it worth hurting people though just to get them to hear what you have to say? It is to a Person with Aspergers. What is said is more important that what the person being told the information understands. What’s even more challenging is learning to put up with it and a way to get through that is love and patience.
The article is more difficult than it appears to be to understand. At first it appears to be about children with Aspergers syndrome and then as it continues, it talks about infants up to adult hood and understanding those with the disorder and those without and how everyone should deal with it. If everyone were to go by the article then it would seem that everybody has this syndrome.
Think about it.
Everyone gets to a point where they want to be right or they believe that their way is the only right way. However when it gets to the point of where it’s a compulsion then it’s a problem. Compulsion meaning that they must be right ALL the time. People like this are the most annoying people ever. What’s interesting though is that there is a disorder basically excusing people like that. This doesn’t seem psychological and then this was supposed to be about children but was turned around to center on adults. Another thing, does this mean that abusive people are excused also? Those who are abusive have to be right all the time; they just beat their views into someone. I was abused for 13 years straight, every type of abuse you can think of I have been through, so are those people who abused me excused because they may have had this syndrome and not know it? I don’t think …show more content…
so.
Maybe I don’t understand the whole concept or how they actually can tell the difference, but for now I think this whole thing is all just a whole lot of pop psychology. There are so many different opinions that were formed by not only psychologist but medical doctors as well. Some seem to agree that this actually is a disorder, while others think that it is something that was made up.
Lets look at this from a medical perspective. Supposedly, people with Aspergers have bigger brains. The reason for the bigger brain is that the amygdala is larger than normal. The amygdala is a section in the brain that is responsible for controlling the emotions of fear and aggression. Therefore if the person has a large amygdala, they embrace the extra aggression and feel all the more need to be in control of everything. Now lets see the psychological side of things or at least try to. Some say that there is a distinct difference between normal people and those with Aspergers. The only way to see that difference though was to put yourself in the place of someone with disorder and see how a day living like that was. Basically experiment and see your results. So that’s just what I did. On Thursday April 3, 2008 I was a person with Aspergers syndrome. I corrected everyone, made sure my point got across, wouldn’t listen to anyone elses ideas, but made sure that mine were the only right ones.
I sure did seem to make a lot of enemies that day. Those that were the same as I was thought that it was cool that I was acting just like them. To others though it was annoying and upsetting. I actually had someone tell me to get away from them. Doing this experiment though only left me more confused though. All I really understood was that some people were bossy and others were not. I still didn’t see how it was classified as a disorder.
To me it seems to be the fussy- fuzzy phenomenon.
That is when people are talking to you what seems to be most important to them. If they are fussy then they are just interested in getting their point across rather then let whomever they are talking to understand them. A fuzzy person is the opposite. It’s more important to have whomever they are talking to understand where they are coming from. Or another way to look at it is that someone will be talking about a topic that they really don’t want to talk about, but they feel the need to be talking or fitting in with whoever is around them.
They say that having Aspergers is like constantly acting like an overactive eighteen-month-old baby. They try to correct you, don’t mean to but do. Now I understand a baby doing it, but an adult there is no way that you can excuse that unless they possibly have other disorders as well and they just cant help acting that way. I have much respect for those who have to deal with people with this disorder because honestly I don’t think that I
could.
Maybe I just still don’t understand the full concept of the disorder, but someone who was bossy all the time rather it was excused or not I just couldn’t deal with it. It seems as though the world is just now beginning to understand this disorder. Until I came across this article I had never heard of it, yet being a psychology major I hope to learn much more about it Aspergers and all the other disorders.
Bibliography
Children raised by lesbian couples aren't disadvantaged. (2001, December). Ana nova. Retrieved December 21, 2004, from http://www.ananova.com/news/story/sm%5f482039.html
Amer, D. H., Hu, S., Magnuson, V. L., Hu, N., & Pattatucci, A. M. (1993, July 16). A linkage between DNA markers on the X chromosome and male sexual orientation. Science, 261, 321-327.
Urtz, S. N. (2000, September). What is wrong with gay marriage? Commentary, pp. 35-41.
Moore, D.W., & Carroll, J. (2004, May 17). Support for gay marriage/civil union’s edges upward: Public remains divided on constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage. Retrieved May 18, 2004, from http://www.gallup.com/content/default.aspx?ci=11689%26pg=1
Wright, E. (2004, January). The gaying of America: 2003 in review. Lesbian News, p. 21.
Hebl, M. R., Foster, J. B., Mannix, L. M., & Dovidio, J. F. (2002). Formal and interpersonal discrimination: A field study of bias toward homosexual applicants. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28, 815-825.