Good afternoon everyone present. Today, I would like to talk about “My Dreamed Husband”.
We all have very high expectations or ideals about our future husbands. It is quite natural to have preconceived ideas about our future husbands. It will indeed, be rare to find a husband with all the virtues and qualities that we exalt. Perhaps that is the reason why some relationships that have strong initial potential tend to become sour. It is not wrong to have dreams and fantasies about our future husbands but they should remain just that – dreams and fantasies. In reality we have to adapt ourselves and accommodate our spouses’ faults and shortcomings to make marriages successful alliances.
I also have my dreams and fantasies of how my dreamed husband should be. In the first place, he should be a gem of character with a heart of gold. Good character and personality traits top my list of priorities. I would not want a man with Mel Gibson’s physique or Robert Redford’s charm because, then, he would be sought after by every other woman and if he happens to have a roving eye, then he may be unfaithful. No, I would prefer a man with average looks but who has a good reputation and without any major flaws in his character.
My dreamed husband should also share some of my interests. I am an extrovert and I enjoy socializing and meeting people. Similarly, I would also expect my dreamed husband to be outgoing and friendly. I also enjoy shopping and travelling. I have expensive hobbies and therefore tend to be extravagant. It is, therefore, quite natural for me to expect my husband to be thrifty and who would, at the same time, try to curb my spending habits.
Although I would like my dreamed husband with a financially secure job, I would not like him to be over-ambitious and put his career above his family. If his focus is solely on enhancing his career prospects, he might neglect his family. He might also insist that I stay home and take care of the children.