Did you know that in 2008, 135,813 children were adopted in the United States of America? When I was sixteen my adoption changed my life. It was one of the most exhilarating and terrifying days of my life because I didn’t know what to expect. My adoption was emotional for me and all my family it impacted not only my life but many of the people around me lives as well. Everyday changes our life in some way shape or form however, some days have more of a lasting impact than others. My adoption was also part of an award ceremony for one of the judges. My adoption was an extremely positively impacting moment that was filled with joy and love from everyone around.…
The article Why Adoptees Need To Find Their Biological Parents by Stephen Betchen is about finding closure between an adoptee and their biological parents. At the age of forty Betchen's adopted parents had already passed away and after waiting so long, he wanted to find his biological parents. Because he did not receive any medical records, he has a fear of dropping dead at any moment, which is why he wanted to see his biological parents to get them. Betchen having a daughter, finds it difficult to claim her as his own. Betchen writes about how adopted people sometimes feel like they don't belong. He also writes about how adoptees have the idea that they should be financially stable just in case they get put up for adoption again. Betchen does…
If I could have one do-over in life, I would relive my sister Myra's adoption day. The adoption took place about nine years ago, when Myra and I were both five. I remember feeling extremely petulant because I was wearing a dress. I cannot blame my younger self for my actions because I didn't truly know what I was doing, but I as I look back on that day, I feel a twinge of regret, due to a typical child reaction. The pictures that were taken show my sisters, smiling and excited, and me, looking sulky and bad-tempered; in essence, I was being a brat. I regret my behavior because I'm afraid that Myra might have believed that my attitude was because I didn't want to be her sister, and that was most certainly not the case. I was having a selfish…
According to the Cambridge dictionary, adoption is “the act of taking another person's child legally into your family to raise as your own child.” It quickly became a very popular thing to do in the mid-1900s. Since then, adoption has been a very common topic of conversation, more so of argument. Similar to a myriad of other controversial topics, people have their own opinions; many people are actually against adoption and could sit down and write a whole list of reasons why adopting a child is a terrible idea. However, many of those people never take into account all of the positives that come with adopting a child. Adoption is an amazing, indescribable act that I look forward to being a part of in the future. Just like almost everything in this imperfect world, adoption has its cons. As well, adoption has its pros; I believe that the more people partake in it, the better we can make the lives of children in need.…
As a family, we welcomed Lucas without hesitation. Although we had hardly any space left in our home, we did not want to separate the three siblings, let alone allow for another child to be placed into the uncertain and often unsafe foster care system. We therefore adopted this baby when he was only two days old, and I received a fourth brother. Our family has since developed an even stronger passion for the institution of adoption. It is harrowing to see how many children today are unfamiliar with true, familial love because they were raised in a broken foster care system with minimal security. These three new siblings have taught me a plethora of lessons about being grateful for mere existence and family. They took the most basic elements of our lives and thoroughly redefined their importance. Prior to this expansion, I believed adopting was merely admirable. However, this experience has inspired me to reach out and show love to the unloved. I quickly learned that adoption is incredibly important and beautiful, no matter how much space it may take…
There are many paths that we have to take in life. They can lead as astray or to exactly where we want to be. In my life I’ve been faced with many paths to choose from. A path that I took totally changed my life. This path that I took I didn’t necessarily choose for myself, but I will be forever grateful for the people that made it happen. In May of 2008 I was adopted by Zane and Stacy Gillette. Before we jump too far ahead I need to talk about life leading up to this event. This was going to be a…
Adoption is the social and emotional process in which children, who will not be raised by their birth parents, become full and permanent legal members of another family. Also while maintaining genetic connections to their birth family. Open adoption is when birthmothers or birthparents have adoptive families have an interaction with one another including the adopted child. The interaction of the adoptive child with the birth family includes writing letters, sending e-mails, telephone calls, and especially visits with one another. The introduction of openness into the process of adoption offers new opportunities for children in need of a parent or parents or especially just wishing to expand on the family. Closed adoption also known as “Confidential Adoption” are files of the birth parents are sealed and never will be revealed unless approval of both parties (FindLaw). There is no interaction of birthmothers and the adoptive family.…
In the U.S., there are two hundred fifty thousand children that are in foster care every year (Moe, 177-192). Foster care is placing a child or children in the temporary care of a family care (Foster Care & Adoption). Children who goes through abusive or negative families had to move to in foster care because of situation. Children that were just born have to be taken away from their mothers because of the drugs she was on, or the abuse in the homes. A family that can’t provide for the child, the state will take away also. Some children are given up to foster care because that not the kind of baby they want in the family or the family just know they real can’t provide for the child. Children who are home alone and start a big problem in…
Imagine not understanding what you are doing, not even fully knowing who is coming to get you, and where you are going is a mystery in itself. These are all thoughts and questions that might run through a childs mind who is being adopted by a family that lives in a different country. This is an international adoption, and it can be controversial in the U.S along with other countries for different reasons. International adoption has gone throughout history adjusting as it has to, but it's not the only thing that has changed both what the parents go through and the children adapting have evolved as time goes on too. No matter how much is done to make this process easier there are always challenges that remain to face everyone affiliated with the process.…
Laura chose an open adoption because her sister was adopted through a closed adoption and it brought no blessing to her. Laura believed that the secrecy of closed adoption brought her sister to have issues with anxiety and low self esteem. Laura said, “Ariel hasn’t had to deal with identity issues to the same degree as my sister. She knows her birthparents, and with that, she knows a lot more about herself. She knows who she looks like and her inherited medical history. Most importantly, she knows why she was given for adoption and that her biological parents loves her. It is essential that Ariel feels comfortable with her adoption and perceive her birthparents as positive, wonderful factors in her life” (“Open Adoption”). Ariel’s adoptive father also believes open adoption can help a child because, “In closed adoption, you face the prospect of keeping a secret and lying to your child about his or her origin. That violates the most basic relationship between a parent and child: TRUST!” (“Open Adoption”). Having the biological parents in the child’s life to inform them will help them understand who they are and creates a stronger relationship between both the child and the adoptive…
“When I was in my late teens I searched for my biological parents through Pennsylvania department of vital statistics.” Said Shelly Fox, Shelly was adopted at a young age. She never had the chance or time to met her real parents. Shelly entered her new world at a a year and a half. She moved into a house in the suburb of Pittsburgh in a small town called Churchill. Shelly Fox believed that the reason her parents put her up for adoption was that they were young teenage parents, not married, still in highschool. Shelly Fox was never mad at her biological parents because they made the right decision by not making a baby suffer through harsh conditions. After being asked how do you feel now as an adult “ I was happy as a kid, I celebrated two birthdays my adoption day and my real birthday.” She was always happy growing up with her new family. With the love of her brother Donald and Mom and Dad. “ I loved everyone in my family but, I was feeling like I didn’t fit because me and my brother didn’t have the same hobbies.” When Shelly was growing up she was always constantly reminded by her classmates of her adoption. “ I was never offended when I was reminded of my adoption I just accepted that I was more special than people.” This was her response to being asked, what did you do when…
When I first started college I was set on working in adoption and foster care. The whole reason I wanted to be a social worker was because of the book A Child Called It. If you have not read the book, it is about a boy named David whose mother abused him in the most unimaginable ways. When the social worker came and removed him from the home I knew that someday I wanted to be able to rescue a kid like David from his home and help him to find a better life. This is why I like the idea of adoption and foster care.…
Every year, 1.21 million children are aborted. These kids are not given the opportunity to experience a life that they could have had. The parents who want to abort their children could have prevented having a baby if they didn’t want to have them in the first place. The child who is being aborted should not have to pay for their parents’ mistakes by not having a life. There are people in this world who would love to have a child that don’t have one. If a parent doesn't want to keep their child they could put them up for adoption. At least the child could experience life and have the chance of being loved by others by being in an adoption home. Abortion should not be allowed in the United States because it’s not fair to couples who want to have a baby but can’t, people who abort have later life regrets, and it’s like killing someone. Abortion is very wrong and should be expunged.…
It all started when I was in 1st grade, around the age of 7. Every night I would get home from school and me and my mom would run up to my dad and begging him and begging him for another sister. We would give him chocolates, flowers, and everything just to get him to say yes. We could feel the tension of him; always saying no. Finally after 4 months of persuading him around April or May, he finally said yes.…
A. According to the data from the National Surveys of Family Growth from 1973, 1982, 1988, and 1995, that out of the 9.9 million women who had ever considered adoption, 16% had taken steps towards adoption, and 31% of these had actually adopted a child. (National Center for Health Statistics)…