Nonviolent Communication is a process developed by Marshall Rosenberg which people use to communicate with greater compassion and clarity and is sometimes referred to as compassionate communication.
Its purpose is to create human connections that empower compassionate giving and receiving and to create governmental and corporate structure that supports compassionate giving and receiving.
It is about getting what you want for reasons you will not regret later. NVC is not about getting people to do what we want. It is about creating a quality of connection that gets everyone’s needs met through compassionate giving. The goal of NVC is to get one’s own needs met while also meeting others’ needs.
A key principle that supports this is the capacity to express oneself without use of good/bad, right/wrong judgment, hence the emphasis on expressing feelings and needs, instead of criticism or judgments.
The priority is given to create a high quality of connection between people, and to oneself. It aims to establish a safe context for connecting to others in an authentic and vulnerable way. Rather than judging, blaming or attacking, it is about starting with the neutral common ground so that you can connect on an empathic level by sharing your feelings.
1.1. Non-violent Communication Skills
1.1.1. Differentiating observation from evaluation
To be able to observe what is happening free of evaluation and to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting us.
1.1.2. Differentiating feeling from thinking
To identify and express internal feeling states in a way that does not imply judgment, criticism or blame and punishment. “It allows us to realize that all forms of judgments, whether towards ourselves or others, as well as feelings such as anger or depression are tragic expression of unmet needs.”
1.1.3. Connecting with the universal human needs/values
Connecting with these needs like trust and understanding in us