Deaths in a family are very difficult to deal and control with, nobody wants to ever be in that situation, but unfortunately we…
It was Tuesday, March first, 2011, my mother woke me up so I can start getting ready for school. I rose with eager anticipation, just four more days until my thirteenth birthday and I just couldn’t wait. I brushed my teeth and hurried down to eat the complimentary breakfast offered to us by the hotel we were staying at. You see we had been staying at a hotel for the past five months because the home we had been renting was foreclosed on so the utility companies turned off the power and the electricity. We had to get down at just the right time so that there was a small crowd but a lot of food so that we can take food back to the room to save for dinner. After breakfast, we…
In this day and age when a loved one is lost the process is so sad and it’s like life stops. In the…
“Ordinary people” everywhere are faced day after day with the ever so common tragedy of losing a loved one. As we all know death is inevitable. We live with this harsh reality in the back of our mind’s eye. Only when we are shoved in the depths of despair can we truly understand the multitude of emotions brought forth. Although people may try to be empathetic, no one can truly grasp the rawness felt inside of a shattered heart until death has knocked at their door. We live in an environment where death is invisible and denied, yet we have become desensitized to it. These inconsistencies appear in the extent to which families are personally affected by death—whether they define loss as happening to “one of us” or to “one of them.” Death is a crisis that all families encounter, and it is recognized as the most stressful life event families face, although most do not need counseling to cope.…
I couldn’t believe it. He was very young, and seemed to be quite healthy. At that minute, my whole family sat around the living room sobbing our eyes out. It was probably the saddest moment of my life. For this reason, my family drove over to my Grandma’s house to meet the rest of my family. Once we got there, everyone was not doing well at all. We all mourned together for the next few days. During those few days, I noticed how everyone in our family accompanied each other, and how close we all became. I now realize that family is the most important thing, and they will always be there for…
I could tell people this is why I don’t try or want to do anything but I don’t because I know that my grandma would never want. I feel that anyone going through the loss of a friend or family member should always think of the positive outlook instead of the negative. Looking at the negative side of it can create all different kinds of problems for a person. If you look at the positive you can use that as motivation to do anything in life. Life can get hard but you can never let the hardships depict and destroy your life. You aren’t on this earth for a long time so you have to make the best of…
It was august 4th 2014 i went to bed at 8:00 that day “My’shea” i heard in a loud voice and it was my mother she had wake me up early. and when I woke up I made me some pancakes with my dad and my sisters, then I got cleaned up, then we went to holland michigan to get my aunt and husband and kids. We went to the airport in detroit michigan and we flu the rest of the to san diego. When we landed in san diego we saw a skyscraper and it was so big that we saw it from the airport, but next to the skyscraper was a place called a kids fun zone,…
There is an unbearability that swallows you whole when you lose a loved one to death,…
My mom leaned down and kissed my cheek, she told me to have a good day and reassured me we would get ice cream together after school. As my mom started to walk away my tantrum began. I could not fathom being away from my mom for an entire day! Tears began stinging my eyes as my mom’s figure faded into the distance. My classmates’ figures began to blur as tears spewed down my face and into my open, screaming mouth. The taste of salt from my tears only fueled the fire that began burning inside of me and intensified my…
Research demonstrates that there is a higher risk for development of morbid or complicated grief when the death experienced is unexpected and the loss is sudden in nature. Potocky (1993) emphasises the risk is also increased with the presence of a concurrent life crisis at the time of the death. Lobb, et al.…
By Friday of that week we were moved into a small apartment in Oak Grove and starting at Sacred Heart on Monday. I hadn’t eaten since Wednesday from all the stress and tears that I couldn’t make go away no matter what I tried. My first day was all a blur, I rarely ate anymore, attempting to fix what I thought was “wrong with me”. Sixth grade was over and I made some nice friends and thankfully the bullying and name calling stopped but the piercing thoughts stayed with me.…
It was a cold morning on the 20 of December, that morning I woke up sleepy as a sloth. I didn’t have school that day and from my room I could smell the beans been cocked. The atmosphere at home didn’t feel right, I felt like if there was something going on and I was the only one that didn’t know. My mom and sister looked suspicious. My house was small, it had two bedrooms and one bathroom. My sister got on her blue BMX bike and went out, I didn’t know where she was going but she went faster than a missile. Out of nowhere people started coming, more and more people, I counted 27 people including an 8 years old buy that fall asleep as soon as he got to my house. I was freak out and ran to my mom and I ask her, mom what’s going on who are these people, and she told me, my love we are going to America.…
I never experienced death first-hand, nor has death happened abruptly in our immediate family but I have seen the damage that it leaves on people. Nothing is guaranteed, except that we will all eventually die and it is a scary thought for many people. Somehow, the fact that we unfortunately can’t avoid death makes us all want to avoid it even more. Although, once you find the courage to acknowledge it death will become real, and then all you have to do is deal with the emotions that comes with it. Some people may feel that they can avoid it but you can’t pretend that death has never happened because that person is really gone. I will discuss a few instances where I had to cope with losing some things close to my heart. Although it is a terrible feeling, I can honestly say that I learned a great deal from each circumstance.…
As I wake up to the smell of fresh breakfast biscuits on a hot August morning, I get the sudden feeling of nervous butterflies in my stomach. Today was mine and Cassie’s first day at the Jefferson Davis School, a former whites-only school, who wanted us to join. No one really knows why, but Mama agreed. Mama came into my room to get me out of bed, then to Cassie’s. Both of us were extremely anxious and did not want to go, but Mama did not want to hear it, so we kept quiet and obeyed. After dressing up in our nice clothes and eating a good breakfast, we ran to ride the bus for the very first time. Cassie and I were going to be put in the same classes because we are new, despite our age difference. As we approached the bus, Jeremy, who was in line, spotted us. “Hey Cassie! Hey Stacey!” he called out. “I heard you guys are coming to the…
It was the first week into my sophomore year; I thought I was going to have such a fun and careless time, I had just got out of a very bad relationship and for the first time I felt free and in control of my own life. Until the day that my traumactic event changed my look on life, and made me open my eyes to reality. I had walked over to my friend Mykayla’s house the morning before school. As I walk in the door Mykayla says “Hey girl I’ve got some good stuff for you.”…