Paper of Son and Lovers

The characters in "Sons and Lovers" ——Tragedy of Paul 's Love 郁彩霞 Abstract: As the main character in this novel, Paul, shows the most struggle in his love: the love for hs mom, for Miriam and for Clara. My work is to analyze the complicated relationships among the women and the man. Due to the Oedipus complex of Paul, he always can 't balance his love between his lovers and mother. A pure pilgrim of Miriam and a feminist of Clara, Paul finds himself in love with both of the two. However, he can marry neither, because he can 't balance them with his mother, a possessive women. Paul 's love is not an occasionally tragedy, but an inevitable one. Key words: balance, son and lovers, Oedipus complex, feminism Introduction :
General idea about Paul and the Sons and Lovers
Conflict between Miriam and the mother and Paul
Conflict between body and soul
Paul 's self -reasons for his tragedy of love
Conclusion

Body
As one of the most outstanding masterpieces of D. H. Lawrence, Sons and Lovers is a magnificent novel which reflects the society of Britain as well as the whole world in the early 20th century. The novel tells several unbalanced lovers including Paul, the main character of the novel, reflecting the real life of D. H. Lawrence. Paul is a real contradiction who can not balance his love among his lovers and his mother. Reflected by parents ' endless conflicts, Paul tends to love his mother but hate the father, which seems to be the origin of his tragedy of love.
Mrs. Morel, a possessive women, who would never allow his beloved son to be robbed by other women. Such kind of emotion comes from her Phaedra complex towards her son. And her son, Paul, is born with the Oedipus complex. Dramatically, this pair of mother and son is more likely a pair of lovers. Mother always wants her son to be with her and the son thinks his mother a lovely woman that he even can not bear his mother 's being older and the fact that she is much older that him. This close relationship becomes the basis of the story and here comes the conflict between Mrs. Morel and Miriam. Miriam, is the woman who wants to take Paul away from Mrs. Morel, doubtlessly becomes the evil for Mrs. Morel. Since Paul falls in love with Miriam, he often returns home very late, much later than which Mrs. Morel can accept. So, the hatred towards Miriam grows. Moreover, in Mrs. Morel 's view, Miriam is not good enough for her son. Thus, she always stands the opposite of Miriam. For the lovers themselves, do exist conflicts. Miriam is a pilgrim that she is pure and "holy" with whom Paul presents his best in soul. But Miriam is a so shy and conservative woman that she never be positive to her relationship with Paul. When Paul requires the sexual relation with her, she seems to be unwilling with it which raises the disgust of Paul. And, Miriam is also a possessive woman that she wants to own Paul body and soul. However, Paul is more desire for the freedom. Though the spiritual communication with Miriam makes him comfortable, their relation becomes looser. The Oedipus complex of Paul certainly makes a great contribution to his breaking up with Miriam. His love for his mother is always over anything else.
The appearance of Clara is obviously the greatest enemy of the love between Miriam and Paul. Still, the relation between Paul and Clara can not meet with a happy ending. It not because of the feminism of Clara which makes herself more difficult to be controlled but also the old love she has towards her husband as well as the desire of sexual love of Paul instead of soul love. The relationship with Clara, for Paul, is more of a relationship of sex. They have little in common with each other. Though this time Mrs. Morel shows her mercy to Clara, it can not help to strengthen the relation of the two. Clara, goes back to her husband at last. Paul, he himself, obtains nothing but the happiness of sex from this beautiful lady. The same condition happens with Miriam. Paul has sexual relation with both of the lovers but finally he choose neither to be his wife. From the soul, he loves Miriam, but the beauty and charm of Clara catches his attention. He swings from Clara to Miriam, suffering a lot both body and soul. Decision is so hard for him to made.
Of course, Paul has several self-reasons that results in his failure of his love. Firstly, the Oedipus complex should be the greatest enemy on the way of finding love. Because of the abnormal love to his mother, Paul can be easily influenced by his mother 's emotion. Mrs. Morel hates Miriam, and finally, Paul does so. His mother 's emotion has a strong effect on him. He just can not escape from the shadow of his mother that he can not love any woman more than his mother. To be extremely, Paul can not love any woman except his own mother. Besides, Paul is always finding faults with his lovers. Since he has fallen in love with Miriam, he dose not satisfied with her. When she shows her strong emotion to her little brother or beautiful flowers, she can help herself to be immoderate. At this time Paul shows no forgiveness to his lover but disgust. If a man can not tolerate his lover 's defects, how can he truly love her? Above all, it is no wonder that Paul is a coward without sense of responsibility. When he thinks he has to marry Miriam because of their relationship, he actually dose not dare to do so. He can not afford a marriage and he even never thought to marry anyone but he still has sexual relationships with his lovers. Shouldn 't he take the responsibility of the sexual relation? Of course he should. But he doesn 't. Such a cowardly man surly can not get a true mate for him.
At the moment, it 's very clear for us to know Paul 's tragedy for his love and the reasons. Actually, Paul has not become a normal adult by getting over some problems like other children. That is not only determined by his mother’s abnormal maternity. His family atmosphere never gives him a chance to be normal. Never was a son more indentured to his mother 's love and full of hatred for his father than Paul Morel. It not only a tragedy of Paul 's love but also a tragedy of his whole life. Maybe his mother 's death can lead him to a hopeful life.

References:
On the Inevitability of the Failure of the Love between Paul and Miriam in Sons and Lovers by unknown writer
The Conflicts between Body and Soul in Sons and Lovers by unknown writer
Analysis of Paul ' Characteristic in Sons and Lovers by Xu Xintong
Sons and Lovers by D. H. Lawrence 伊犁人民出版社
论劳伦斯《儿子与情人》中的女性主义 ——催更生

References: On the Inevitability of the Failure of the Love between Paul and Miriam in Sons and Lovers by unknown writer The Conflicts between Body and Soul in Sons and Lovers by unknown writer Analysis of Paul ' Characteristic in Sons and Lovers by Xu Xintong Sons and Lovers by D. H. Lawrence 伊犁人民出版社 论劳伦斯《儿子与情人》中的女性主义 ——催更生