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Running head: 4MAT REVIEW, PARROT & PARROT 1
4MAT Review of, “The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring”
By Les Parrot and Leslie Parrot
Barbara Perry
Liberty University
4MAT REVIEW, PARROT & PARROT 2
“The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring”
By Les Parrot and Leslie Parrot
Summary
In this book, Parrot & Parrot (2005) present a resource for setting up a marriage mentoring program. The book gives guidelines for mentors with successful marriages to incorporate in helping with building positive, effective marriages for others. It relates the awareness and vital skills needed to be used in the mentoring process.
Part 1 covers a broader look on marriage mentoring. It is explained that mentors are models, encouragers, and purveyors of wisdom and are not parents, best friends, or available at all times. Mentors should be experienced and have a clear mission, according to Parrott & Parrott (2005). Essential are: warmth, which brings a sense of relaxation and comfort without smothering; sincere genuineness in helping the couple versus being unfruitful; and empathy showing true interest. Several mistakes that beginners make in mentoring are discussed, including not setting boundaries, asking too many questions, and passing judgment. This section ends with the positive outcome of learning about yourself while you are helping others. In examining a triad of emphases, Part 2 focuses on preparing pre-marital couples, maximizing stable marriages, and repairing marriages in distress. It looks at the engagement period as offering an especially important opportunity for mentors (Parrott & Parrott, 2005). Mentoring is seen as offering help in fostering healthy habits that last a lifetime, among which are conflict resolution, money matters, and intimacy. This segment shows that mentors help
4MAT REVIEW,
4MAT Review of, “The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring”
By Les Parrot and Leslie Parrot
Barbara Perry
Liberty University
4MAT REVIEW, PARROT & PARROT 2
“The Complete Guide to Marriage Mentoring”
By Les Parrot and Leslie Parrot
Summary
In this book, Parrot & Parrot (2005) present a resource for setting up a marriage mentoring program. The book gives guidelines for mentors with successful marriages to incorporate in helping with building positive, effective marriages for others. It relates the awareness and vital skills needed to be used in the mentoring process.
Part 1 covers a broader look on marriage mentoring. It is explained that mentors are models, encouragers, and purveyors of wisdom and are not parents, best friends, or available at all times. Mentors should be experienced and have a clear mission, according to Parrott & Parrott (2005). Essential are: warmth, which brings a sense of relaxation and comfort without smothering; sincere genuineness in helping the couple versus being unfruitful; and empathy showing true interest. Several mistakes that beginners make in mentoring are discussed, including not setting boundaries, asking too many questions, and passing judgment. This section ends with the positive outcome of learning about yourself while you are helping others. In examining a triad of emphases, Part 2 focuses on preparing pre-marital couples, maximizing stable marriages, and repairing marriages in distress. It looks at the engagement period as offering an especially important opportunity for mentors (Parrott & Parrott, 2005). Mentoring is seen as offering help in fostering healthy habits that last a lifetime, among which are conflict resolution, money matters, and intimacy. This segment shows that mentors help
4MAT REVIEW,
References: Parrott, L. & Parrott, L. (2005). The complete guide to marriage mentoring. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Books.