Perspectives on Homosexuality

Sexuality throughout Life

In this outline I am going to address three different scenarios pertaining to human sexuality. The first scenario I will cover is an adolescent girl named Anna who is very much in love and dealing with the peer pressure of her boyfriend to engage in sexual intercourse. We will also discuss how her parents feel about her boyfriend. Secondly I will discover why an elderly couple is trying to get their groove back sexually and some of the problems they face due to their age. Last we will talk about a gentleman named Bill who has been paralyzed from the waist down since he was a kid. Bill would like to be intimate in the relationship that he is currently in but is very nervous and uncomfortable when it comes to discussing the subject with his girlfriend. I will address Bills feelings and offer him some information regarding sexuality and his disability. Anna I understand that you are having a rather difficult time at the moment. On one hand you a have a boyfriend that you love pressuring you to have sex. When we look at the other hand you have a loving mother who thinks this young man is trying to take advantage of you. Anytime you are faced with a difficult decision I think it is necessary to stop and give yourself time to consider before you make a decision that you will regret. I am not here to judge I am here solely to help you with your decision making progress. Everyone has a set of standards or morals that they follow to determine what to do in difficult situations. Some people are reared in a legalistic fashion meaning they derive their values from an external source such as religion. There is situational ethics where the decision to have sex should be guided by love for others. There is ethical relativism, hedonism the pursuit of pleasure, asceticism a denial of sexual desires to devote oneself to spiritual pursuits, utilitarianism and rationalism. The moral view that you choose to use is your decision making process. Stick with that and you will be content with your decisions, having known that you have done the right thing in your heart. Mom you have raised Anna the very best you know how and according to the morals that you believe in. It is impossible to watch Anna all day so you are going to have to trust that she has received some of the wisdom that you have imparted towards her. It is perfectly fine to voice your opinion but now is the time for Anna to make her own choices and be accountable for her own life. Tom and Susan I understand that you are here to improve your sex life. Susan you are ready to be more sexually active now that you are retired, and Tom you are feeling a little worried about this whole situation. I can tell you both that as you get older there are many changes that happen to the body that also have an effect on the way we think and feel about sex. It helps to be informed about the changes that occur in your body so that you know everything is healthy. The changes that we see in women are reduced lubrication in the vagina, decreased elasticity in the vagina walls and a decreased intensity of spasms of orgasm. The changes that we see in men are longer time to achieve an erection, softer erections and decreased intensity of spasms of orgasm as well to name a few. These are some of the general problems that occur as we get older and they can make us feel anxious, or unsure of our ability to perform. I am here to tell you both that there are ways to get around them and still have a fulfilling happy sexual life. One way to combat this is longer foreplay times. I want you to rediscover and appreciate each other’s bodies take your time and get each other stimulated. For the lack of lubrication I want you to go out and experiment with different water based lubricants that will work for you. I also want you to use your imaginations if you have to. Remember how your lover looked when you was younger or add sex toys and pornography, whatever the two of you feel comfortable with. Here are some pamphlets that I would like for you to take with you on how to get your groove back this article will jump start you back into action. Bill you are romantically involved with a young lady and would like to be intimate with her but are unsure how to express this concern. Well I am very glad to have you here and will be glad to help you on your way to being sexually active again. Sex is a two part system meaning we receive stimulation from the brain and then from direct stimulation to our erogenous areas. I say this to let you know that sex begins with a positive image of oneself. If you are not satisfied with who you are how can you expect someone else to be. Next you are going to need to have knowledge about sexuality and knowledge about what you can do and your limitations. Your injury exists from the waist down in the sacral erection center, so you are not able to obtain an erection from direct stimulation, but you are able to obtain one from stimulation of the mind. When you have a talk with your partner let them know of your limitations and how you can achieve stimulation. If your partner shares the same interest in you as you do in her then I am sure she has thought about what sex will be like with you and the good thing is she is still here. That is a plus, so be confident knowing that she cares about you and take this information and the two of you can read it together and decide where to go from there.

Reference
Nevid, Jeffrey S. Rathus-Fichner, Lois, Rathus, Spencer A. (2011). Human Sexuality in a World of Diversity Eight Edition, Allyn and Bacon