Phenomenology of Love

"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." This is just a sample of a quotation from Aristotle. Different quotes are being sent anywhere for just to let the sender express his feelings towards a person. But still playing on my mind a question that could be answer in all ways, what is LOVE? Love is a very strong feeling of affection. It cannot easily be described for it is a mix of emotions. Love is the attraction of one person to another person, object or sensation. Scientifically, it is created by chemical reactions in the brain. Eating chocolate releases the same chemicals in the brain giving one the feeling of love. Love is somehow has different feelings for other people, why? Because, we can love and be loved by other people. For other people if they talk about love, they are always thinking that love is just for sex, if a person will tell you I love you it doesn’t mean that s/he is inviting you to make LOVE with him to the bed. It may lead into misunderstanding but, this is very common, but this is the hardest thing to deal with and the hardest part of the human emotions, because you need to use your mind in thinking and heart for feeling, and that makes us crazy on thinking. I can relate my self somehow on the notion of love in three reasons of Manuel Dy; * The emphasis on being-loved than on loving * The emphasis on the object of loved rather than on the faculty of loving * And the infatuation
I can say that we are happy being loved by people than we love them, because as a part of being a person sometimes we are asking ourselves if, there are still people that loves us? But with this question I can say that we are still lucky because at least we experienced how to fall in love and be loved. But sometimes we are not sure of our feelings, due to these uncertain feelings for a person; at first sight we are already giving a conclusion that we love that person even though we are not still on the exact age. And that is what we called, infatuation, a feeling wherein you are just attracted in just a short period of time but you are thinking that you love him/her based on her physical appearance and other characteristics. I am sometimes get lonely for the things that makes me happy, same as in love, if we are in a relationship, then our partner commits something which we really don’t like to happen we are getting mad at them, and suddenly we are giving a space for each other. And when the time comes that you are not giving attention with each other that is the time anyone of you will think that your relationship has no longer functioning well. And that is the loneliest part of love, wherein you and your partner will not talk for a week and even more just because of misunderstanding and may lead into break ups. But there are still ways to prevent things like those, talk about your problem and listen each others side, and don’t make any comments unless both of you is already done explaining each other. The answer to the loneliness is reaching out to the other person other. I am still doubtful on what Manuel Dy have said, love is the answer to the problem of loneliness, well for me if that is the answer why there are still people fighting? If that is the solution of loneliness, why others are using love to let just a person feel that they love a person? Then at the end of the day that person leaves suddenly. I can say that love is unfair sometimes, because love will never be perfect ever, if there is, I still won’t believe because even though how beautiful your love life is, there are still flaws on its process that no one can ever hide from its existence. Every time we meet a person, we get to know them first, make friends with them, in meeting a person, for me there is no preferred appearance or even characteristics, as long as that person will not bring you to the darker side of life. But sometimes, it is in the nature of us that we are expecting a person who is we think that s/he is our ideal partner. We are in the world of imperfection, but it seems we are making ways to look forward for perfection, but we can’t remove the fact that everything has made not for perfection, but for acceptance. But even we are being rejected by love, it is not a problem that needs to think all the time, but that is a challenge for us to fill up our emptiness for us to develop ourselves. Developing in the sense that, even we are not neglected still we are standing erected for facing challenges of life not only in love but in any forms of challenges. Love is so creative, I do believe that destiny will always be a destiny, everything has its purpose, we need just to wait and be patience, and for us to become more productive and enjoy life with love to the fullest. And if the time comes, someone special will be at your side and safeguard you always, and accept you at your worst and love you at your best.