Power Of Addiction

Addiction triggers anguish in a person whenever they get to their personal rock bottom and come to the realization that change is their only hope. This point of looking out from the bottom is where they realize that they possess the option to become a better person. This hope allows them to grow past the pit of addiction through thoughts of a better future. It is important for these people who are addicted as well as their families to seek out the first three steps included in a twelve step program. Through a connection with a higher power they will re-normalize the idea of a give and take relationship. Early on this connection with a higher power is important because it might be their only reliable connection. This connection with God
While in the throes of addiction the idea of a good relationship gets thrown out the window. Addiction destroys boundaries that would occur in a healthy relationship and makes way for abuse, manipulation, and selfishness that causes the removal of unconditional love from the relationship with the other party needing to become concerned about protecting themselves and their best interest instead of allowing themselves to be manipulated and hurt. Under the influence it is often easy to hurt others by disrespecting their boundaries whether they be emotional or physical. It is often hard to interface with an addict because they often believe themselves to be in control of their situation and have differing interests from those who love them who just want to push recovery onto their unwilling loved one. Through the recovery process the addict must learn to be okay with who they are by themselves before they can explore that in relation to other people. Once there ready it is of insurmountable importance that they set distinct boundaries and guidelines for the relationships they form with people in consideration of whatever role they want that person to play in their life. The upholding of these boundaries will help the individual to work on trusting the people that they choose carefully to allow into their lives. Early on it is important to be very rigid with your boundaries and to make it known to others what they are but as your recovery progresses you will be able to go back and add flexibility to things that no longer trigger you. In a family setting it is important to shed unhealthy roles that cause dissonance and instead focus on being there for each other. It is important to let go of the selfishness and manipulation that happens in relationships you had as an addict. There should be a give and take and equal consideration of the feelings and