Promises I Can Stay Analysis

Reading the book, “Promises I can keep” by Kathryn Edin and Maria Kefalas was very touching because I am also a woman and I can understand parts of their few points. To me it is so weird to see that young women are having kids at a really young age and it usually the woman that are poor. “Half of the poor woman who give birth while unmarried have no high school diploma at the time, and nearly a third have not worked at all in the last year” (2). That is really sad to see that young woman start to have children around the age 21 average. What cause these young women to have children at a young is that they are in poverty or that they would not be able to carry a child if they wait after marriage. To me that is so shocking to hear that at the age of 27 it is the time were it is hard for woman to have kids because that because now a days it is not hard for a woman to get pregnant at that age, even at an older age they get pregnant.
“Why do some men who once prodded their girlfriends towards pregnancy end up greeting the news with threats, denials, abandonment, and sometimes physical violence?” (7). It is a shame to see that men influence and persuade their couple to have a baby but in the end basically they are not ready to be a father so just physical and verbal abuse the girl. “Many men do not cope with the stress of a pregnancy well” (57). The other outcome is that the relationship transform to a “magical moment” because of the birth a child. Supposedly having a baby can help bring fix the problem that most relationships are having today. To me this a total lie because if the relationship is having trouble staying alive what makes them think that bringing a child into the world is going to make the relationship stable and good