Pros And Cons Of Helicopter Parenting

Helicopter parenting is not a parent in a helicopter flying over a person, but it is a parent who hovers over their child and tries to monitor their every move. From when their kids are toddlers to when they're young adults, parents tend to their child's needs and keep a close eye on their kids at all times. But there comes a time when every parent needs to learn to let their child find themselves without controlling their behaviors, actions, or activities. Hovering parents can have positive and negative effects on their kids. Although parents may have good intentions, helicopter parenting can do more harm than good by causing kids to be incapable of fending for themselves.
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With the thought of college in mind, parents start to put academic pressures on their children once they are in nursery school (Acocella). Being worried about their children getting into college, parents make their kids’ school schedules composed with high academic classes that may be uninteresting to their children. If the child is being forced to take a class they do not want to be taking, it can result in a poor academic performance (Heffernan). Parents force their children with extra homework and may hire tutors to help them get good grades. (Graham, Acocella). Extracurricular activities are thought to impress colleges and help keep children occupied and out of trouble (Acocella). Rather than letting them date, learn how to drive, hangout with friends or even use any technology, parents make their children go to tennis lessons, ballet classes or even Mandarin classes. They will not allow their children be distracted or go out to have fun. Instead they keep them off the streets and send their kids to special-skills/educational camps especially during the summer (Heffernan, Acocella). Once a child is in college, helicopter parents take over their child's college course registrations, calling to complain about professors, administrators, and housing assignments, and bombarding officials with questions during freshman orientation (Robbins
When parents set their child loose into the world after tending to do life things for them for a long time, they do not know what to do with themselves nor how to do things on their own. Overparenting can cause kids to constantly need their parents for help instead of dealing with it for themselves and making independent decisions. In addition, it prevents them from finding who they are and learning how to live on their own which can lower their self-esteem (Lythcott-Haim). It can also cause kids to engage in risky behaviors and make kids less academically engaged (Gregoire). If kids are not given a chance to struggle on their own nor experience failure, they will not be able to problem solve by themselves and can create a fear of failure. Overparenting can also cause depression and anxiety. The more involved a parent gets in their child's life when going to college, the less satisfied the child will feel with their lives (Lythcott-Haim, Finkel & Gráine). It also prevents them from developing skills and figuring out what makes them happy ( Lythcott-Haim). Without their parents hovering over them, they do not know what to do or how to live because they have relied on them for so long