How To Raise A Happy Child

How to raise a happy, healthy child is not something that most parents are taught. In fact, many just stumble through the entire process, albeit with the best intentions. Consequently, it is all too common to find an unhappy state of affairs in families, with constant friction between parents and children. The main problem with children is how to live with them. The adult is the problem in child raising, not the child. A good, stable adult with love and tolerance in his heart is about the best therapy a child can have. The main consideration in raising children is the problem of training them without breaking them. You want to raise your child in such a way that you don't have to control him, so that he will be in full possession of himself at all times. Upon that depend his good behavior, his health, and his sanity. Children are not dogs. They can't be trained like dogs are trained. They are not controllable items. A child is not a special species of animal distinct from man. A child is a man or a woman who has not attained full growth. Forcing them to do something will affect on their behaviors and they will not be successful. If you make them to play some music instrument that they are not interested, their ability to play that instrument will not improve. Parents have to help the child to become a responsible person. If a child has a sense of responsibility when he grows up he/she will fare much betters in this world than if he/she doesn't. To teach a child to be responsible I think we should give him/her all the choices that they are able to make and allow them to have the complete consequences of those choices. Discipline seems to be the major problem parents have with their children. I suspect part of the problem has to do with what discipline really means to different people. To most parents discipline mean punishment like spanking. I think discipline means correction in a right way, right way such as talk to them about the things that they've done wrong, and try to show them in what ways they went wrong. Discipline in a punishing way such as beating and spanking has a negative affect on the child behavior. Children are not born to know how to do things so it's our responsibility to show and teach them how to do them right. I think children are like blank papers at first and whatever you do on them will fill out that blank paper. They don't know anything, they don't know how to behave, and they don't know how to do things, so this is you who will teach them and have affect on them. Also paying attention to children, paying attention to what they say and what day need is really important. We have to be careful not to cut them when they are talking and understand what they are saying. I think ignoring and not paying attention to what they say causes low self-steam and depression. Attention will help them to be successful in the things that they do. We also can use an example from the short story Bambinger and that is the boys parents don't pay attention and they don't care to what he says. So they always cut him while he is talking so he got this habit of ending his sentences with the word "but" and not saying anything after that. With raising our children the right way we are helping the society.