Relationship Between Parents and Children in Chinese Family
Relationship between Parents and Children in Chinese Family
Guangyao Zhai
Teddy Chocos
Seminar-126G
Apr 1, 2013
In general, parents from different cultures differ in the methods to deal with the relationship between their children. Comparing with the Western cultures, Eastern culture places greater emphases on stability, collectivism and peace. These values are believed to promote a kind of general restraint or control of emotions in the interest of maintaining group harmony. Thus, different from parents in Western culture, traditional Chinese parents do not express so frequently and obviously their loving emotion to their children. Meanwhile, Chinese parents, like the mother in Amy Tan’s article, have too much expectation to their children’s future career and give them painful stress. Certainly, this kind of parents mentioned above cannot form a benign relationship with their children, especially adolescents in the rebellious period. The point is the relationship between parents and children in Chinese family is conflicting from generation to generation because of different kinds of factors, and it causes a few serious problems such as smoking, drug use, and even suicide. Communication and interests can remit and finally figure out this terrible condition.
The causes of conflicting relationship between parents and children can be summarized as painful stress, high expectation and overload love. These factors are extremely common in the majority of Chinese family due to same cultural background and strict policies. Chinese college entrance examination is one of the most important examinations, because Chinese people believe that adolescents who are not in the top class are able to change their destiny as long
Guangyao Zhai
Teddy Chocos
Seminar-126G
Apr 1, 2013
In general, parents from different cultures differ in the methods to deal with the relationship between their children. Comparing with the Western cultures, Eastern culture places greater emphases on stability, collectivism and peace. These values are believed to promote a kind of general restraint or control of emotions in the interest of maintaining group harmony. Thus, different from parents in Western culture, traditional Chinese parents do not express so frequently and obviously their loving emotion to their children. Meanwhile, Chinese parents, like the mother in Amy Tan’s article, have too much expectation to their children’s future career and give them painful stress. Certainly, this kind of parents mentioned above cannot form a benign relationship with their children, especially adolescents in the rebellious period. The point is the relationship between parents and children in Chinese family is conflicting from generation to generation because of different kinds of factors, and it causes a few serious problems such as smoking, drug use, and even suicide. Communication and interests can remit and finally figure out this terrible condition.
The causes of conflicting relationship between parents and children can be summarized as painful stress, high expectation and overload love. These factors are extremely common in the majority of Chinese family due to same cultural background and strict policies. Chinese college entrance examination is one of the most important examinations, because Chinese people believe that adolescents who are not in the top class are able to change their destiny as long