The lord is our god, the lord alone, you shall love the lord your god with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. Take to heart theses instructions with which I charge you this day’.
In Jewish law, sex is not considered shameful, sinful or obscene. Sex is not thought of as a necessary evil for the sole purpose of procreation. Although sexual desire comes from the yetzer ra (the evil impulse), it is no more evil than hunger or thirst, which also come from the yetzer ra Like hunger, thirst or other basic instincts, sexual desire must be controlled and channeled, satisfied at the proper time, place and manner. When sexual desire is satisfies between a husband and wife at the proper time, out of mutual love and desire. Sex is a mitzvah (Ex21:10) and is an act of holiness.
The requirements of marriage before sex ensures that sense commitment and responsibility. Jewish law also forbids sexual contact short of intercourse outside of the context of marriage, recognizing that such contact will inevitably led to intercourse. Jewish law says that man commits himself to three major obligations in marriage. He owes his wife food, clothing and sex. Since martial relations are a mitzvah, Jewish law also details the frequency of sex in marriage, based on the man’s profession.
The torah does not actually prohibit premarital sex. There is no passage in Jewish scriptures that forbids a man from having consensual sexual relations with any women he could legally marry, nor is there any passage requires a man to marry the woman deals with rape. It says nothing about consensual relations. Some say that consensual sexual relations create a common law marriage, which can only be dissolved through divorce, though the law on this point is not clear.