Taking a class is infinitely more difficult when you are stuck with a teacher who degrades and berates their students. There is a feeling of empathy towards the author and his classmates while reading this article. The details of his experience are not what you would expect. As an adult taking classes it is almost assumed you will be treated with respect. Why did his teacher feel it appropriate to treat her class in such a manner that they felt inadequate? Was this how she was taught?…
In Generation Me, Jean Twenge lays out her research on the major differences between our generation vs. the Baby Boomer’s generation. Most of what is brought up in Chapters 1 and 2 is right about how our generation focuses on “doing what want and what we love” over respecting other people’s comfort. Although I found myself nodding and agreeing to most of her points, there were a few things I found that she exaggerated a little too much on. In Chapter 2 “An Army of One: Me,” Twenge quotes Maureen Stout: “many educational psychologists believe that schools should be 'places in which children are insulated from the outside world and emotionally - not intellectually - nourished... My colleagues always referred to the importance of making kids feel good about themselves but rarely, if ever, spoke of achievement, ideals, goals, character, or decency,” (clearly an assumption). Growing up in elementary school, although it was quite a while ago, I still remember that my teachers in each grade would always stress on manners and helping/caring for our peers. We were taught to improve our character and to not disrespect our classmates; throughout all of my years in grade school the teaching staff had always emphasized and prioritized our achievements and goals as well. However I do understand that she highlights the importance of people learning to improve their character, which I agree should be necessary to enforce to children at young ages.…
Oftentimes in society, we take many things for granted. Many things we may not even notice. We take for granted the safety of the normality of our lives. We also take advantage of the care and precision that goes into keeping that way. In our safe society the behaviors we display are expected to be courteous and polite. Society does not expect the people in it to be rude or without manners. Our society is like this because we are always being watched, being regulated. Many times people have wondered what would happen if we were not always watched. We wonder if man would be evil or good. That is exactly…
But that is not the case, as I grew up I have always been taught to say yes ma’am, no ma’am as well as yes sir, no sir. You can take manners as a consideration as the southern culture due to different culture up North. In the north they aren’t accustomed to young…
Where has all the Respect gone? Respect is a rare commodity in this day and age, children who have it as very young toddlers lose it by the time they are teens, and some children never have it at all. This is a sad reality that most people don’t even realize. What makes it ever much more upsetting is it’s the adults fault, we walk around treating each other like the plague. Helen Bonnick said it best in her article Frontlines, “we have lost the art of putting others before ourselves” (1); which used to be a very important show of what kind of person you were.…
What are “Manners” and do they vary depending on who you are from a socioeconomic and ethnic perspective?…
Incivility thrives through our modern society and into the classrooms and campuses of colleges. Incivility can automatically be thought of as the improper behavior or insulting other people based of race, looks, ect. However, incivility exists in classrooms where the professor experiences disrespect in multiple forms. Colleges obtain a policy towards incivility and proper conduct, however the importance of respect and civility in the actual classroom can be found to be left out. Civility should be a requirement for campuses to preserve courtesy and respect amongst both students and teachers.…
According to the New York Times, it was respectful and proper etiquette for a man to take off his hat when he entered an elevator. Now, the 1950’s were not perfect by any means, but the character, and the elegancy that most men and women in that time had, is substantially different from those of the men and women of today’s society. Part of the problem is respect and manners are not being shown in the homes or schools, they aren’t even being taught like they should be. It should be taught in the schools, starting in kindergarten, and if it is taught every year, required for the students to treat their teachers and their peers, then respect would not go extinct. For something like this to work, it can’t just be talked about, it has to be enforced. Children in the 50’s were expected to say “please” and “thank you”, or to give up their seat to an adult. They were expected to stand when an adult entered the room, or to use their manners. If the children didn’t, they were…
Growing up in the United States is a much difference experience than Catherine Lim had while growing up in Malaysia. In the United States, people are not typically raised to respect their elders. Sure, people are told to, but it is not inherently in our blood to do so. As Lim describes in her story “Or Else, the Lightning God,” her upbringing is one that respects elders. Just as Margaret complains about her mother-in-law, she gets chastised by her mother and says that “the young should respect the old…or they will be punished. (Bozzini & Leenerts, 2001 p.463)”…
The article opens with a case study on a seventh grader named Jason. Jason is considered low achieving and performs below grade level. Mr. Monroe does not want to bore the high achieving students during class but also does not want to leave anyone behind. One day he is using the smartboard to explain simplifying fractions. Because they consider this a waste of time, the high achieving students talk amongst themselves and distract the students that are paying attention as the low achieving students complain about the complexity of the material. Mr. Monroe warns them to stop talking and to pay attention but this only makes the situation worse. Jason states aloud that all teachers suck. After being threatened with an office referral Jason says that he would rather be there than in the classroom. This is a classic example of nonviolent misbehavior. The article outlines three key elements to remember when dealing with classroom misconduct: behavior is predictable, behavior is preventable, and preventing problem behavior requires attention to instruction.…
Emigrating here from a different country you would think that respect is definitely an aspect that remains the same throughout the whole world, but not necessarily so. Respect in the United States is virtually nonexistent, particularly the respect that children have towards their parents. That’s something I really can’t wrap my head around, coming from a southeast Asian country. Respect is something that us foreign kids are taught at a very young age, unlike here. Here it seems like even seniors in high school don’t know a single thing about respect whatsoever.…
You know that one person that bumps into you but doesn’t have the common courtesy to say excuse me or I’m sorry they just keep walking like it never happened, and wonder why someone is stepping to them rudely. Or that moment you are on the freeway and lanes are merging and it seems like the driver in the next lane seems to have speed up as you are trying to fit into the merge resulting in you having to slow down even more, All though it is not getting that person any faster to their destination. Etiquette is not just about what fork to use other words it’s all about self-awareness and treating others with respect. It’s sad and unfortunate that a lot civility has gone with the wind. Rudeness is on the rise, but it has some things to do with the economy and parenting.…
Many teens do not respect their teacher which might be because the teacher does not respect them; as the golden rule goes, “treat others the way you would treat yourself”; Ralph Waldo Emerson in “From Education” would probably agree with this quote because he strongly believes that, “the secret of [e]ducation lies in respecting the pupil,” (page 102). Shows that Emerson understood what children are thinking then did something to help them by simply respecting them. Another big issue with education is patience; some people do not have enough patience to guide children to what they are supposed to learn. Emerson also believes that patience is an important part in education, “to regard the young [children, they require] no doubt, rare patience: a patience that nothing but faith in medial forces of the soul can give,” Emerson was trying to say that someone has to really care in order to teach information to children (page 105).…
Though cultures have many differences there have been a few traits that have united them across the spans of time and geographical area. Many of these traits have even been included in religious doctrine or social and moral laws. In western philosophy and religions the concept of respect has help a high place, allowing a clear distinction between those who have experience and answers to those who are young and naïve. Religions such as Christianity and Mormonism stress greatly that the young should respect the elderly, while the Judaic religion provides a strict consequence, should this command be broken. By Old Testament law, the disrespectful child was to be taken to the town council, and then promptly stoned to avoid the spread of the sin and to keep ?God?s Chosen? pure.…
You might argue that the kids do nothing to belay this attitude, that they all act immature and generally stupid, but that is only the minority of students. If they are treated with disrespect and mistrust, that is how they will act. For example, in college the professors treat their students as adults, not like the teachers claimed to do in high school, but the professors actually believe in their students maturity. In high school, the teachers claimed to treat their students as adults, but really they treated them as sexually mature children. A student had to work hard to earn any kind of trust, and even then it’s limited. A student has to ask permission to do everything, even use the bathroom. Often there was no time to get that out of the way between classes, especially because they locked the lavatories then. In my old high school, they made a sign in/out sheet so they had a detailed record of where you were going, why and how long you were there. It…