Saving Civility: 52 Ways To Tame Rude, Crude
Active Listening Makes all the Difference
With reading Saving Civility: 52 Ways to Tame Rude, Crude, and Attitude for a Polite Planet, and experimenting its hypotheses, I have discovered that my positive behaviour can easily shape the way others act. I ran a simple experiment on being an active listener, to see what the effects are. I concluded that being a good listener encourages those you are talking to, to also be more concentrated on the conversation. The first thing I did as I prepared to complete this experiment was read chapter seven, ‘Listen Up’ in Saving Civility: 52 Ways to Tame Rude, Crude, and Attitude for a Polite Planet written by Sara Hacala. Through this, I realized that I am near as good of a listener as I thought …show more content…
When I got back to my dorm, I found a sticky note on my door from my roommate. In her note, she mentioned how she also wanted to talk about to issues we were having as soon as possible. I took the initiative to set a time for our little meeting to take place after dinner that evening. I became very apprehensive. I hate confronting people, and the last thing I wanted to do was make her more upset than she already seemed to be. As the time came, we meet up to discuss our previous arrangements on cooking and grocery shopping. At the beginning, I was very nervous, but as the conversation moved along, my confidence grew. I was focused on listening to every word my roommate said, her body language, tone of voice, and maintaining eye contact. I realized I wasn’t the only one who was active listening.
As a result of my listening attentively, my roommate also began active listening. I could tell this because she began maintaining eye contact with me in a very sincere manner. It seemed as though she really cared about what I had to say. As Hacala writes “There’s nothing more flattering, in fact, than making a person feel like he’s the only person in the world when you’re talking to him”. I assume that my roommate felt like this, and therefore treated me the same way as I was treating her. This lead to a more effective conversation,
With reading Saving Civility: 52 Ways to Tame Rude, Crude, and Attitude for a Polite Planet, and experimenting its hypotheses, I have discovered that my positive behaviour can easily shape the way others act. I ran a simple experiment on being an active listener, to see what the effects are. I concluded that being a good listener encourages those you are talking to, to also be more concentrated on the conversation. The first thing I did as I prepared to complete this experiment was read chapter seven, ‘Listen Up’ in Saving Civility: 52 Ways to Tame Rude, Crude, and Attitude for a Polite Planet written by Sara Hacala. Through this, I realized that I am near as good of a listener as I thought …show more content…
When I got back to my dorm, I found a sticky note on my door from my roommate. In her note, she mentioned how she also wanted to talk about to issues we were having as soon as possible. I took the initiative to set a time for our little meeting to take place after dinner that evening. I became very apprehensive. I hate confronting people, and the last thing I wanted to do was make her more upset than she already seemed to be. As the time came, we meet up to discuss our previous arrangements on cooking and grocery shopping. At the beginning, I was very nervous, but as the conversation moved along, my confidence grew. I was focused on listening to every word my roommate said, her body language, tone of voice, and maintaining eye contact. I realized I wasn’t the only one who was active listening.
As a result of my listening attentively, my roommate also began active listening. I could tell this because she began maintaining eye contact with me in a very sincere manner. It seemed as though she really cared about what I had to say. As Hacala writes “There’s nothing more flattering, in fact, than making a person feel like he’s the only person in the world when you’re talking to him”. I assume that my roommate felt like this, and therefore treated me the same way as I was treating her. This lead to a more effective conversation,