Self-Acceptance In The Film 'Love And Other Sorrows'

Standing in front of a mirror, what do you see? The ugly that despise you, the pretty that define you, and the things you wish you had in comparison to others. People often evaluate the positive and negative perspective of themselves and lack of self-respect. In other words, they are not aware of their own abilities or self-worth. In the movie Love and Other Sorrows, the viewer witnesses a family who fears of self-acceptance in their society. The family self-esteem of sexuality, consciousness and social status affects their own pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness. Ben is a sixteen-year-old boy who is discovering his sexuality. His curiosity and internal conflict intertwine with his older sister’s romance and his mother hope for her to marry the right man. Often, Ben observes his sister Dodie from afar, before, and after her dates. The viewer may predict that he has developed curiosity and some sort of needs between male and female relationships. An example of Ben sexuality and low self-esteem is shown in the scene where Ben is in the boy’s bathroom describing himself as a gloomy person because he believes being a virgin makes him unpopular. Furthermore, his views on sex is complicated, but he thinks girls are beautiful. Not to mention, Ben also ask
Her consciousness is influence by her mother attitude towards women appearance and behavior in front of a gentlemen. She advises Dodie to act interested toward her suitors, but do not ruin her reputation in the society that they live in. An example of Dodie self- consciousness is shown when their mother asked Dodie to buy a suit and Dodie argue that a suit make her look old. She prefers to wear a sky blue dress because it will show off her youthful shoulder. Another example of Dodie consciousness is when she doubted her love life because her mother control who she should married and thought her mother was being