Self-Disclosure In Relationships

1. Do you think full self-disclosure is important in this relationship? Why or why not? 2. Yes self disclosure is very important in a relationship because that opens you up to your partner about your past. self disclose is a good way to start the relationship and build up from there. Self disclose also helps you get to know the person your dating. Imaging if you dating someone but yet you don’t know much about them. Its like they are pretending to be someone else with you. If that is the case then its like better off not dating rather dating someone who you don’t know.

3. Use other relationships ( your own and others) to evaluate how important full self-disclosure is to committed relationships. Cite times when full disclosure may be more harmful than helpful?
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One of my friends started dating a girl he met in a bar. They kept dating for couple of months yet he never asked her about her background and stuff. There was a time when she would kind of disappear and then out of no where she would be back after a week or so. He tried a lot to find out about her yet she would always say I would tell you some other time but she would never do it. He later found out that she was using him for money and so self disclose is good but at the same time it is bad. If you disclose your self to someone who you just met and they find out your weakness they can take advantage of that and misuse it to their advantage. For example if some one finds out you have a lot of money and or for example you don’t drink then every time they need anything they would always ask you for
money.

3. Evaluate the alternatives to self-disclosure in this situation. Explain how lies, benevolent lies, partial disclosure, equivocation, or hinting might be more effective than full disclosure? Sometime in relationship it is important to get to know your partner first. Therefore before you can trust anyone you must put them through tests which might require you to lie and use false information. Although you are lying, later you will realize that it was to your advantage and you can explain that to your partner why you lied and tell them the truth. If your partner really loves you then they will accept you even after this confession.in order to find true love sometime you have to lie first and see if they truly love you then they would understand why you lied to them. They will know that only lied to them in order to win there heart.

4) Based on readings from the text, evaluate how much you feel Alora and Malcolm should disclose to each other about the six months they were apart. I think they should tell each other all the information they can because the 6 months that they have been distance they have a lot to learn about each other. Sometimes in these kind of relationship even the smallest mistake can make a big problem. They should start slowly from the beginning and move their way up. They should start completely from scratch. They should tell each other what they did in the 6 months that they were away from each other especially if they met someone else and if they dates because that information can hurt them in the long if they find out that from anyone else.