Sex Lies And Conversation By Deborah Tannen

Problems with communication can result in anything from a failed marriage, to nuclear war. Imagine a woman in a very authoritative position, trying to relay crucial instructions to a highly qualified man regarding a critical operation, yet the woman does not believe this man is actually listening. Instead of giving the information to a man who does not appear to be fully committed, the boss woman assigns a highly less qualified woman to do the job, resulting in some sort of catastrophic failure. While this example is incredibly vague, it shows what miscommunication between males and females can create. “Sex Lies, and Conversation” describes the differences in male and female communication. This article was written by Deborah Tannen, who has a PHD. in linguistics and has written dozens of articles for big time newspapers and journals, and has also written more than twenty books. “Sex Lies and Conversation” also examines the role communication plays in a successful relationship and how mutual comprehension of how each sex communicates can greatly improve the health of a relationship. There is a large amount of applicability in this article, as it would greatly aid in strengthening a relationship by improving communication, understanding, and tolerance
This article explains how one can communicate with their spouse in a more efficient way and remove the barrier of differing communication methods between the sexes. Tannen writes that most women want a conversational partner in their significant other, but most men fail to deliver. This can result in general communication problems as women could easily take this as a fault in their male partner. She reveals that men experience a woman’s communication method as interruption, intrusion, and lack of attention and that women perceive a man’s communication methods as disloyal and