Sex & Religion

SEX “First off, sex feels good so we should do it all the time, even in class.”-Danny Martin. “Sex outside of marriage is a sin; sex within a marriage is not a sin.”-Bertrand Russell. In today’s world, sex can either be viewed on both ends of the spectrum as you can see by the two quotes above. Many people have different views and opinions on the matter. Like any subject there is always a good and bad to sex. The good that comes from sex is that it brings joy, relaxation; it may help a person to find their soul mate and sex is good in general. God did make us to mate with each other and for us to find pleasure in each other. Of course there is a bad side to sex in that it can spread sexual disease, be used as prostitution and can ruin a persons reputation. Now that I have talked about sex in the general matter I would like to discuss the issue of Christians having sex before marriage. Christians should have sex before marriage because it is good for ones health, joy and mental state. I feel that the church has misinterpreted the bible saying that is such a sin to have sex before marriage. There are only scriptures saying that you shall not commit adultery meaning not to cheat on your wife. The church has been able to brain wash and tell everyone that if you have sex before marriage you will not have a good and satisfying marriage; which is completely not true. Sex brings a great amount of joy to both sides of the party. Sex can also create a deeper bond between two people resulting in a way more intimate relationship. A recent study has shown that 80 percent of Christians end of having sex before marriage anyway. If the facts show that most Christians already have sex before marriage then why does the church still try to push abstinence on it’s congregation. Sex is a natural act created by God to reproduce and it may even be God’s gift to humans to enjoy our fellow companions and the pleasure that come from sex. Everyone person on earth has sexual desires that are completely natural and it is wrong to only preach abstinence when it goes against our very nature and desires. If our pastors and Christians were truly concerned and had the best interests of our youth in their hearts, they would support a program that goes not only with their beliefs, but also our natural human desires and instincts. After asking a couple of teammates about this subject, they all had different responses to having premarital sex. According to Danny Martin he thinks sex before marriage is absolutely fine and should have as much sex as possible as long as your not sleeping with any slutty girls with diseases. He justified his statement by saying that there is nowhere in the bible where it says not to have sex before marriage. When I asked another teammate; Caleb Badder, he said he thought it was fine to have premarital sex as long as you were in a relationship with a significant other. Although he did not support the idea of having sex with whoever and whatever he could, he preferred keeping the idea of sex special between two people but that did not necessarily mean wait until your married. When asking Joe Huthsing who is a phenomenal catcher and human being, gave me the response that he thought is was okay to have sex before marriage as long as it was not promiscuous. He like Caleb thought that it was a good idea to only have sex with a partner that you love and trust. This seems like a common when asking a lot of guys. So I felt like I had to see what the opposite sex thought about premarital sex. According to my good friend Emily she believed that it is okay if you’re with the person you are going to marry, like a serious boyfriend or fiancé. Emily was not okay with the idea of people sleeping around and having sex with more then one person in your lifetime. She thought that sex should stay between two people because of how sacred and special sex is. From a woman’s standpoint it seemed like sex was definitely considered a special act where the guys I asked thought of sex as more of a casual act. Everyone has different views and opinions but from most people I come across on a daily basis it seems sex is not a bad deadly sin but considered a good gift from God to enjoy his creation. In America, nearly 95% are having sex before their actual wedding night. Of course, just because lots of people are doing something does not make it right or make it good. But sex is. In terms of happiness, sex once a week instead of once a month in the “happiness equivalent” of an extra $50,000 a year. People with active sex lives live longer. Sex releases stress, boost immunities, helps you sleep and is healthy for your heart. And according to an article by Dr. Stephen Juan, Sex helps fight depression. A study by Dr. Gordon Gallup of the Department of Psychology at the State University of New York at Albany found that women who regularly engage in heterosexual sex in which they come in contact with semen were significantly less depressed than those women that did not. The causal relationship is unclear. Dr. Gallup speculates that "possibly because when absorbed through the vagina, semen may have an effect on mood in women". However, Dr. Gallup is quick to point out: "Regardless of the findings, this study does not advocate that people abstain from using condoms. Protecting oneself from an unwanted pregnancy or a sexually transmitted disease is far more important." In conclusion, I feel that as Christians instead of being told that sex is a sin and is something that we should not do until married, our elders and parents should teach us about sex, safe sex, the pros and cons. Knowledge is power. The more knowledge we have about sex and how it affects us either good or bad, we as young adults will be able to make better decisions when it is our time to step up and make responsible choices. I believe the act of sex before marriage in itself is not a sin. It is how we view and approach sex that makes it a sin just like any other thing on this planet. We as Christians should being having the best most pleasurable sex; after all we our God’s people and God made sex for us to enjoy. While searching and reading articles I found a quote that I can relate too which says “Sex before marriage is wrong? Would you buy a car without test driving it?” I agree with this quote because imagine getting married and having so much positive anticipation about having sex with your lovely beautiful wife and it turns out that she is just absolutely sexually crippled. Your sex life is an important factor in a happy marriage. So in my approach I will enjoy all the benefits of sex with my girlfriend or any other significant other while glorifying God and thanking him for blessing us with such a great gift of pleasure.

Work Cited 1. Martin, Daniel. Personal Interview. 5 Nov. 2012 2. Huthsing, Joe. Personal Interview. 5 Nov. 2012 3. Badder, Caleb. Personal Interview. 5 Nov. 2012 4. Burchinal, Emily. Personal Interview. 6 Nov. 2012 5. Juan, Stephen, Dr. "What Are the Scientific Reasons for Having Sex? â¢ The Register." What Are the Scientific Reasons for Having Sex? â¢ The Register. The Register, 6 Oct. 2006. Web. 07 Nov. 2012. <http://www.theregister.co.uk/2006/10/06/the_odd_body_sex_and_science/>.

Cited: 1. Martin, Daniel. Personal Interview. 5 Nov. 2012 2. Huthsing, Joe. Personal Interview. 5 Nov. 2012 3. Badder, Caleb. Personal Interview. 5 Nov. 2012 4. Burchinal, Emily. Personal Interview. 6 Nov. 2012 5. Juan, Stephen, Dr. "What Are the Scientific Reasons for Having Sex? â¢ The Register." What Are the Scientific Reasons for Having Sex? â¢ The Register. The Register, 6 Oct. 2006. Web. 07 Nov. 2012. &lt;http://www.theregister.co.uk/2006/10/06/the_odd_body_sex_and_science/&gt;.