Should Marriage be just as hard to accomplish as divorce

Divorce Is The New Marriage Over fifty percent of United States marriages end in a divorce. If you were to ask someone how many papers they had to sign to become legally married, they would say no more than two or three. Now, if you ask someone how many papers they had to sign to obtain a divorce; they would say dozens. If we made getting married as hard as it is to get out of, that would certainly encourage people who aren't in a serious, committed relationship to think twice. Marriage should be just as hard to acquire as a divorce is.

The legal act of getting married in Washington DC, takes nothing more than an approved matrimony application. This process should be disregarded completely. After an engagement, it should be required to hire a marriage attorney who will then supply you with a petition to enter into marriage. This petition would be handled by a local court house who would determine a date to discuss important reasoning. During this time, both spouses, their attorneys, and any important people relevant to their current relationship will explain why these two people should be allowed a marriage together. Topics such as raising a family, finances, and conflict resolution will be accounted for. As well as health, political views, hobbies, personality traits, drinking or drug habits, and religious beliefs will be mandatory to submit prior to your marriage. After the trial is heard, the attorney will create a pre-martial agreement outlining some of the potential issues and an agreeable plan in event of a divorce.

Before going into a marriage you need to be realistic of the complications you could run into. There is a high lack of education when it comes to marriage. In school you can take up to 5 years of math, but not once do you learn how to plan a budget for a future family. You learn how to speak a language but not how to practice conflict resolution. Nor do you learn or even have a clue about how to deal with property taxes, rent; putting money aside for food, cable, heat, personal needs or money to have a child. Going into a marriage with no knowledge of any of this would be a complete wake up call; and not the good kind. Before any marriage is set in stone, both partners should be able to comprehend these strategies and have a full understanding of how stressful they can be.

Divorce is hard, wether its emotionally, physically, financially, socially or mentally. Divorce impacts many people in a negative and stressful manner. Plenty of couples rush into their relationships, excited to be married, and would never even think of getting a divorce until they actually experience what its like to be 100% committed. Going through a divorce requires hours of effort, and time discussing how you and your ex partner are going to go your separate ways. In every aspect of a divorce there are dozens of papers and agreements to be figured out, this includes child support, finances, housing, custody of children, ect. Everyone one of those listed including more, have to be evenly distributed and agreed on. Unless you have a specific, solid reason to do so otherwise, you and your partner must agree on all terms. Divorce can take up to two years to be finalized, not to mention it is extremely expensive. All marriage to the court, is a another day of work. All marriages to every individual couple is the biggest awakening they will ever go through. Why not save the hassle of a divorce and make it more difficult to be married in the first place? If you don’t want to spend the time and effort it would take to go through a longer marriage process then fine; maybe its good you aren't getting married. Any couple that will go through pre marital counseling, pre martial classes and a hearing in a court room, are the couples that will do whatever it takes to be with one another. Those are the couples who wont be spending aching hours filling divorce papers and going through the trauma of watching the person you were once madly in love with go completely in their own direction. If we make marriage just as hard to get in to as it is to get out of there would be tremendous drop in the divorce rate and a tremendous rise in happy, healthy relationships.