Stephanie Ericsson author of “The Ways We Lie” was born in 1953 and was raised in San Francisco. The essay “The Way We Lie” was first published in the Utne Reader. Her husband Jim died in 1988 and due to that she kept a journal and later turned it in to a book called “Companion Through the Darkness, Inner Dialogues on Grief”. Her other works include ShameFaced (Hazelden Publications), that is used for the last 25 years in chemical dependency treatment centers. She was also the editor of two books by Stephen Zuckerman: New Clichés for the 21st Century and Doc, What's Up? Stephanie presently lives in Saint Paul, Minnesota.…
In Lying: A Metaphorical Memoir, Lauren Slater described her personal early childhood story and young adulthood experiences of being an epileptic patient. She used significant metaphors in this book which required readers to reconsider what is real and what it the exaggerated part. Slater puts the idea up that she may be making her epileptic illness up. Slater was trying to tell the readers that her abnormal behavior was attributed by her epilepsy. However, in the last chapter of the book readers realized that she may never had epilepsy at all. Throughout her memoir, Slater is using epilepsy as a metaphor to give some facts that she was not able to write exactly, but our readers can find some private truth through the metaphor.…
Stephanie Ericsson is going to explain lying in her article “Ways We Lie” her main point is to show that lying is not only going to hurt you but also others. I agree with Ericsson about all people lie. Ericsson starts off with explaining the white lie which is a lie that you use when you think it is necessary to lie rather than to tell the truth. Sometimes you think a lie is easier for someone to handle rather than the cold hard truth.…
After revisiting Ericsson's interpretation of the ways we lie, I stumbled upon a quote were she stated “It is an act of subtle arrogance for anyone to decide what is best for anyone else”. She was inferring that an individual can not imply that their suggestion is the best option for anyone else. Clearly, that statement is true for numerous reasons. An individual can not state a suggestion towards someone saying it is best for them. While in reality, it's just a faulty lie. People would rather give inaccuracy information instead of telling the honest truth. For example,my neighbor ask for cooking advice and I shelter he or she with lies such as”Your cooking is nice and tasteful”. When in reality I could just give he or she the advice they need to improve their cooking. With that said, white lies (as Ericsson refers to) are genuinely feeling holders.…
The speech How to spot a liar by Pamela Meyer is extremely interesting. She also wrote a book called Liespotting. She describes how everyone lies and with the right techniques you could spot a liar. We usually lie to protect ourselves or love ones. We are more likely to lie to a stranger 3 times within meeting them.…
When a person tells a lie, they steal someone else’s right to the truth. Stephanie Ericsson in “The Ways We Lie” explains ten specific lies that she believes are prevalent in today’s society. The reading begins by the “The White Lie” being the most harmless lie. Then she describes “Out-and-Out Lies” being the worst lie because it ignores the truth to escape responsibility. Ericsson attempted to go an entire week without telling a lie to analyze how conversation would be if it were all honest. Surprisingly, she believes it is nearly impossible. From personal experiences “The White Lie” is seen as the least harmful and almost a natural part of everyday conversation, then ranging to the most harmful being “Delusions” which is seen as lying…
Rick Riordan once said, “Humans see what they want to see”. These words told by Rick Riordan relate to the topic of delusion. Delusion has been just one of the many ways we lie. Other lies include omission, white lies, dismissal, facades, and groupthink, but delusion is the worst.According to Dictionary.com, delusion is defined as a fixed false belief that is resistant to reason or confrontation with actual fact. This type of lie can be very harmful to the liar and the person that is being lied to. Delusion is the worst way to lie because one can hurt himself/herself, one can hurt other’s thinking, and one can become distant from reality.…
Deception is generally allowed during the investigative stage of detection, as it is to the courts but is less tolerated during interrogation and rarely suitable or accepted during court proceedings. “Here, police are permitted by the courts to engage in trickery and deception and are trained to do so by the police…
Have you ever heard the sayings, “Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead” or “Have some fire. Be unstoppable. Be a force of nature”? You might have recognized these quotes from the hit television shows, Pretty Little Liars and Grey’s Anatomy. Pretty Little Liars and Grey’s Anatomy are both outstanding shows with many similarities, but they show some differences that make them equally unique.…
8. I would say Ericsson’s tone for the most part stays light and at some points even humorous. She uses just enough humor to keep the reader hooked and entertained but not too much so it doesn’t mock. I also think there is almost a hint of guilt in her tone for her lies and for they war all people lie to each…
So too have pity on somebody who has wronged you must put yourself in their place and you empathize, you sympathize. Our natural inclination wants to do the opposite, to emphasize the differences between us and the wrongdoer. We no longer see them as a fellow human, a creation of God, but we look at them only in terms of their sin. Have you ever been to 6-flags and had one of the caricature drawings of yourself done. They take your worst feature - your big nose or forehead and they make it huge. That’s what we do. We begin to exaggerate the other’s sin while at the same time diminishing our own. See when someone lies to us and hurts us we see that person as a “liar’ - that’s who they are. But if we lie it’s because we have good reasons and its a complex situation. One of the things we don’t say is, “I lied because I’m just a liar!” We never say that. And the more different we see ourselves as different from them the other, the harder it is to forgive - the more self-righteous we are the more difficult it is. We really have a hard time forgiving when we say to ourselves “I would never do anything like that.” If it’s something we struggle with ourselves well then we can forgive but if it’s something we believe we’re righteous - then we don’t forgive.…
When you experience that sick and sinking feeling that your spouse-whether husband or wife-is not telling you everything,you know you need to act.What you don't need are more twisted scenarios of what may or may not be going on.All human beings have the capacity to imagine and when it comes to extramarital affairs,the painful emotions have more than enough power to drive our imagination in the darkest,sickest directions possible.Even the most uncreative among us can generally imagine vivid details of exactly what their cheating spouse may be up to.If you're going through these feelings and fantasies,it's time to put an end to this stage of the process right now.…
Joey, I don't know the extent of your knowledge regarding the reality of of how things lie, so I am going to tell it like it is. For myself and Chrissy, and for you. I believe you are going to be unable, or unwilling to accept and move on from this reality until you know what the reality is, how can you know where you want to be if you don't know where you are? Here it is. Chrissy and I took each other's hearts when I was fifteen and she was thirteen. I belong to her and she to me since before you and her "met". She is a part of who I am, I love her like you can't contend with. I have loved her sacrificially and unconditionally, openly and boundlessly for almost 3 years. I almost lost my life for her in the flood. Her circumstances were beyond…
Countless cultures are destroyed on the basis that one is superior to another. African tribes have witnessed this throughout the 19th century from the European colonies that claimed these territories. Europeans believed that the African tribes were uncivilized, if not savage due to their differences physically and religiously. In Things Fall Apart, a novel by Chinua Achebe, an African man named Okonkwo, from the Ibo tribe, portrays the effects colonization has had on him, and the numerous traditions that were once common, but now extinct in the Ibo culture. Achebe displays the complex and organized structure of the Ibo culture and religion in order to impede the destruction of other traditions.…
Love is often the pivotal influence over people and their decisions, so much that the phrase ‘‘people do crazy things, when they're in love’’ has been immortalized by The Walt Disney Company as a staple of romance. Similarly, the drive hidden behind that emotion extends to most relationships that fall within human capacity. The lengths a parent will go for their child or the loyalty a friend has for another being some poignant examples of the emotion in its platonic forms. To maintain healthy bonds, people must put forth effort and be receptive towards compromise. We can accept that lying is an integral part of our relations, therefore so intrinsic to our lives that it is unavoidable.…