stick parenting

Stick Parenting
When I was in high school, I learned a theory: Chinese students always good at mathematic. My Chinese friend and I always got the highest grades on science classes. This was a very weird truth, but I am going to let you know the reason of the mystery.
Chinese people were not smarter than any others, we just received unusual education when we were just kids, this education is known as Stick Parenting. Every time Chinese children make mistakes, their parents will hit them with sticks as a punishment. Chinese people believe that it is the most effective way to teach their children.
Fortunately, my parents only struck me couple times. I still remember that I was hit so bad, since I fell in love with a beautiful girl when I was in junior school. The conflict was between Chinese parents are too conservative to teach children what love is and their children were curious about sex and love, since the teachers and parents always avoided talking about this matter. Through Chinese culture, love was always related with sex; this standpoint makes Chinese felt embarrassed when they talked about it. The only thing I knew was that she was a good looking girl, and I felt drawn to her, even though I was not sure if it was love or not. We did most things together: went to school, walked back home, had lunch, watched movie, and did homework. I felt that she was like my sister, whom I trusted and enjoyed my time with. However, good times didn’t last long, my parents heard that news from my teacher, who was nearly sixty years old lady with old- fashioned ideas. She usually wore a white shirt and black pan. I never saw any smile appeared upon her face. She always shook her head and said “ You guys are the worst students I have ever taught.” Both my parents and teacher thought felling in love was a very stupid thing for us, and they wanted me to spend all my time on study instead of get well with a girl. I was trying to explain my thinking, while my father was staring me with his grisly eyes which were filled with cruel. “ Dad, I like her, because she is like my sister. She takes care of me, and encourages me studying hard,” I said. “ Shut up! You are a student, you will know what is love as old as me. Now you did it, you have to pay for it,” he yelled to me with anger. “ Listen to me, please” my imploring voice shook. Absolutely, my begging would not work, it was no way to stop my father hitting me with a wooden stick which had two inches diameter and forty inches length. My dad’s voice was higher than before,“ This is the first time I warn you. Only pain can make you remember what I said today. If you did again, I swear I will hit you hundred times harder than this. Go back to your room, think about it, and you won’t have dinner tonight.” These were the last sentences I heard in the half hour stick hitting.
Honestly, I knew that was not the right time to fall in love with a girl; however, it was too much punishment for me. Both my teacher and parents didn’t think about persuading instead of hitting me. They didn’t even want to talk with me and trust me. They thought I should know this principle, they believe that strike was the only useful way to teach their child. It was ridiculous for them to give child right and opportunity to do the explanation.
David who was one of my good friends, when I was 16 years old. Once we played basketball with some higher grade students, he was gotten in trouble with these guys. They tried to push and hurt David, since he played really professional. As long as David felt the hostility，he started an argument with them. A toff who was six inches tall pushed him, then David punched his face very hard; as a result of this fighting, David did not show up on the following couple days. He told me that his father hit him with a metal stick too bad to get up.
Did David deserved this punishment? He was provoked by higher grade students and hit so bad by his father. David was a good temper people just as I knew, he never fought with anyone before. The major injury he had was not from the argument, but from his father.
Spare the rod, and spoil the child. Chinese parents believe stick is the best tool when they teach their children. Since we don’t have particular law or any association to protect our children, so that stick parenting becomes the normal and forgivable problem.
If stick parenting happens in USA, the criminal parents will send to court, some foundation will take children away and take care for them. Hitting children will cause serious trouble, the parents may lose their children forever.
China has a population of 1.4 billion, over 2 million children are injured by stick parenting every year. This huge number of population makes it is impossible to control the bad situations of children. Hitting children may be a way to warn children, but it should not be the only way. Put yourself in children’s shoes, will stick parenting be a good method?