“Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been”
By Joyce Carol Oates
There are things that happen when we are growing up that change us when we are grown. There are things that change us forever. Every human being is different, and there is a reason why . All of us had a childhood and all kinds of experiences some good, some bad, some full of joy but also others very painful. Eventually we grow childhood and mature depending of what we have gone through. The way we are able to handle situations is very important because one thing leads to another. We can't rely on intuition, we need to have logic in what our choices are. We can’t just punch someone in the face just because we don’t like a certain individual, or go up to someone and kiss him/her just because we feel some sort of attraction. There needs to be some kind of logic to everything we do. We need to stop for a second and think about the consequences of our actions; although at times when one is at the teenage stage of life, one can be very naïve and might do things unconsciously, not thinking that some kind of danger might be around.
The short story “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been” by Joyce Carol Oates talks about a 15 year old girl, Connie. The story tells us about Connie who is a young teenage girl who is always getting compared by her family to her older sister June, the perfect one.Her mother said to her “Why don't you keep your room clean like your sister? How’ve you got your hair fixed-what the hell stinks? Hair spray? You don't see your sister using that junk” (Oates 361)Connie lives with her parents and her older sister; although both her parents live with her it seems like her dad is invisible, “Their father was away at work most of the time and when he came home he wanted supper and after supper he went to bed. He didn’t bother talking much to them”(Oates 362) Connie had a small group of friends who she hangs out with a few times a week. The girls would get dropped