Summary Of Chapter 7 Wounds Rifts And Wars
• Tavris, C. & Aronson, E. (2007). Chapter 7: Wounds, rifts, and wars. In Mistakes were made (but not by me), pg. 184-212, Orlando: Harcourt Books.
I think common self-justification of perpetrators results in a vicious cycle mutual harming and worsened situations or relationships. The chapter notes cases where the perpetrator is clear, like in the case where the husband had an affair behind the wife’s back. The wife felt immensely hurt since she was betrayed by the one she loves. Although the husband admitted and apologized for his mistake, the wife’s “overreaction,” according to the husband, showed how he ultimately did not fully understand the feeling of the victim. I also believe that his masculine pride is what prevented him from recognizing
I think common self-justification of perpetrators results in a vicious cycle mutual harming and worsened situations or relationships. The chapter notes cases where the perpetrator is clear, like in the case where the husband had an affair behind the wife’s back. The wife felt immensely hurt since she was betrayed by the one she loves. Although the husband admitted and apologized for his mistake, the wife’s “overreaction,” according to the husband, showed how he ultimately did not fully understand the feeling of the victim. I also believe that his masculine pride is what prevented him from recognizing