In her few days of staying with her grandmother she found …show more content…
Their family moved from the south to Bombay. Her grandmother found that her sons showed a regrettable tendency to wander off to what she considered the less civilized parts of the world. One of them married a Viennese, a beautiful but foreigner girl. Her grandmother found that she had no control over her sons whom to married and over the education of her grandchildren but there were no traces of evidence in the way that her standards were vanishing. Her continued autocracy was on the examination of the mail received by anybody living in the house. She used to censor and sometimes entirely remove letters from people of whom she did not approve. She questions where the letter came, was it from a man? Did my mother know their families? She would say in my opinion you should not reply to that …show more content…
Her mother was not married in an early age unlike her sisters but her education was seemed to be controlled. Her mother wanted to be a doctor and after endless argument with her mother, she was allowed to go to medical school in Madras. But unfortunately, her mother heard that she was the only girl in her class and that every morning g she would find notes from her desk from men students some expressing their view of women who broke the conventions of Indian womanhood by leaving their homes and entering the world of man. She was taken out of the school immediately and continued, instead in a more ladylike work in English literature in women’s college.
Her mother defied two of the most rigid social conventions of the time before she was twenty –five .She earned a living by lecturing English literature in Madras College and at twenty-five, she was the first Kashmiri girl to marry outside her community. Even twenty five years after mother’s marriage there was still Kashmiri woman whom she had met when we returned to Kashmir who still would not receive her mother because she had broken their social rules. For at that time in India there was a prejudice not only against inter- caste marriages but inter community ones,