The Causes and Effects of Divorce

The Causes and Effects of Divorce About fifty percent of American marriages end up in divorce. Young couples who are twenty and younger are the highest percentage when it comes to divorce rates. When someone gets a divorce and they get married later there usually is another divorce later on. Men are more likely to file for divorce than women, as shown in research. There are many reasons as to why married couples decide on getting a divorce. One of the most known causes as to why married couples get a divorce is finances. Sometimes there might be a gambling problem within the marriage. So when their significant other is wasting all their money, it puts a strain on the marriage and it will most likely end in a divorce. Since the recession, a lot of people have lost their jobs, thus causing creating a strain on many couple’s marriages. When a spouse loses their job, it puts a strain on their relationship; they begin to stress over money and are more than likely not able to pay for the things they need such as: bills, food, and other things. Usually when couples are in a relationship, they do not talk about their debt. They only discover how much debt their significant other is in after they get married. Credit debt is probably the main reason why people get a divorce. Another reason why married couples get a divorce is distance. A lot of many people marry someone who has a job that requires them to travel a lot. The distance can really do damage to a marriage. Distance can lead to many problems. One could worry about what their partner was doing and if they were cheating; when that happens there is a lack of trust. If there is no trust in the relationship it will not last. Also, a domestic dispute is another reason why a lot of marriages end up in divorce. I think a domestic dispute should be the most important reason as to why a couple should get a divorce but, sadly, it is not. Cheating would have to be the second reason why people get a divorce. When someone cheats, it is very hard to gain everything back from their significant other, especially their trust. If the cheater was to go out, their partner will usually think they will do it again and it just creates a huge problem. Arguing is a major problem in most marriages. People tend to argue over things that should not matter but people these days have too much pride, are hard headed, and stubborn. So that causes them to butt heads and usually no one knows when enough is enough. When that happens it goes over the line and someone gets hurt physically. Domestic violence occurs when someone is possibly intoxicated, has a really bad temper, or just cannot control themselves. There are a lot of people that are afraid to do something about their partner when they have hit them, and when they are scared they just sit quietly and stay in the relationship. Domestic violence should never happen but sadly it does. No one deserves to be hurt physically in any type of way in a marriage and it is a major problem. Finally, the effects of a divorce would play a big part in their children’s lives. As the divorce rates in America rise, bad effects do happen to the children who are used to growing up with both parents. When both parents raise their children, the children are developing their own personality by getting traits from both parents and are learning different things from each parent. When a divorce happens within the family, it causes one parent to leave the household it has a huge effect on the children. When a parent leaves, it can make the child feel unwanted and they can withdraw. The outcome of that can lead the child to not be happy anymore and act out in different ways such as fighting, not focusing on school, getting into drugs, beginning to drink, they lose their social skills, and ignore their daily activities. Even if there is a family and a divorce happens, both parents need to continue to play that important role in their children’s lives.