Sara Gramley
IEL
October 27
Relationships between Parents and Children
“As we age, we become our parents; live long enough and we see faces repeat in time” something that Neil Gaiman, wrote in The Ocean at the End of the Lan.
Jhumpa Lahiri in his great novel The Namesake agrees with this, but the relationship between parents and children in the novel "Namesake" is curious because as Gogol grows up and mature he was able to understand the teaching of his parents about life.
In this novel, the relationship between parents and children is the main idea that determines the destiny of different stories. The Ashoke and Ashima relationship with their parents was attached to Indian culture. Parents are who decide the by choosing who they marry this was a decision it determined their fate and character as parents.
When Gogol is a small child the relationship with his parents is completely normal. Over the years the relationship becomes a bit more complicated. Gogol is like any boy his age stubborn obstinate and rebellious. This behavior is strange to Ashoke because in their culture the behavior of young men as Gogol was different. Ashoke tries to educate his son as he was educated but definitely your method does not work. Lahiri wrote.
“That night at the dinner table, he brought it up with his parents. It was one thing for Gogol to be the name penned in calligraphy on his high school diploma, and printed below his picture in the yearbook, he'd begun. It was one thing, even, for it to be typed on his applications to five Ivy League colleges, as well as to Stanford and Berkeley. But engraved, four years from now, on a bachelor of arts degree? Written at the top of a résumé? Centered on a business card? It would be the name his parents picked out for him, he assured them, the good name they'd chosen for him when he was five.” (99)
Gogol wants to change his name. His father is disappointed but decides to let him do what he wants to. Ashima