The Role Of Obstacles In My Life

Throughout an individual’s life there will be some obstacles in their path. Some obstacles may take years to get over, but some may only take days to months to get over. Some people experience themselves worrying about making everyone in this world like them, or always wanting to keep the peace between everyone. Stress is one of the biggest obstacles individual’s faces in their everyday lives. A relaxing way to deal with stress is to imagine a soothing environment. Also, people use defense mechanisms to push themselves away from disagreeable behaviors and emotions. Throughout my life, I have a specific thought that has occurred repeatedly as I have grown older. This irrational belief is I must keep the peace between everyone, so there will not be any conflict between family and friends. This irrational belief has hung around my life since I was in middle school. In middle school one of my cousins, named Andrea, lived with us, my mother and cousin would fight over them helping around the house. Although, I understand where my mother was coming from because if
The first mechanism is Intellectualization, when I found out my grandmother passed away: I kept saying she was in good health, she was not sick, she could get around, and she did not act differently when I left for school that morning. I would not take into consideration that she was actually gone and was not here anymore. The second defense mechanism is Compensation, I usually tend to do this when I am asked to drive a manual vehicle. One scenario I have used is I may not know how to drive a manual, but I can defiantly drive an automatic. The strengths of these mechanisms helps me defend my emotions in a way that helps me cope with each situation I face. The weakness of these mechanisms is that I try to cover up my emotions with these defenses. When entering this class I did not realize that I have been using defense