Till Death Do Us Part

Till Death Do Us Part
Christopher Soltren
Northwood University

Abstract
Divorce is a very controversial issue in today 's world. There are so many people out there who have gone through a divorce or wanting to get one. However divorce is not something you can just get right up and obtain. It 's a process that you need to go through that may involve some bad experiences but perhaps good outcomes. An example can be that divorce can be financially devastating because it is too expensive to pay for. Another can be that divorce can be great for couples in order for them to obtain peace of mind and happiness being away from tension and hardships. Divorce is sometimes needed for some couples in order to get rid of all the stress and tension caused by marriages. Divorce is a good opportunity for couples in order to decide what they want to with their lives. However, divorce can also be devastating emotionally for the partners or even their children. It can be hard on children to grow up with only one parent if both parents are separated from divorce. It can also be hard on the parents to have their children go through such a intense experience. Divorce is a big issue that is still being argued every day. I believe that divorce is wrong in a sense of it being a lie to God because I am religious. But I believe it is the right thing to do if the partners do not belong together and just constantly argue and fight. I believe constant fighting like that is unhealthy in a relationship so therefore divorce is the way to go.

Till Death Do Us Part Everyone says the statement, "Till death do us part," when they get married. However, throughout the world, that statement just hasn 't seemed to be completely true because of an enormous amount of divorces out there. People have been choosing to get divorced for many different reasons. Some marriages may just not be meant to be. The couple that 's married may just not want to be together anymore. They may just lose their connection with each other. There are many arguments and cases involving divorce. Just like every other controversial issue though, divorce has pros and cons. One pro to divorce is that if the couple does not want to stay together or if they do not believe their marriage will last, they can choose to get a divorce and become separated. If they become separated, they can be relieved of all the stress that marriage brings. Marriages always contain a lot of tension and arguments along the way because couples will always disagree on certain things. Therefore, if the tension is too much for one person in the marriage then he or she can get a divorce in order to gain peace of mind. Another pro of divorce is for each person to become healthier and maintain a healthy heart. Marriages usually bring about mental pain from all the tension and arguments that the couples have. So if a couple got separated through divorce, they would not have to deal with the pain caused by arguments and tension. If there is a lot of tension and anger in a marriage, there may be some verbal or physical abuse brought about. Divorce can reduce the risk of that happening, and increase your safety. If there is a lot of tension and anger in a marriage, there may be some verbal or physical abuse brought about. There have been many stories of women being abused in marriages from their husbands. I, myself, am not a victim of divorce so I cannot share my personal experiences; however, I can relate to these women who have been abused in marriages. I once saw a movie called Enough that is based on a true story. It was released in 2002 on May 24. It tells the story of a woman called Slim Hiller who has been married to her husband but he doesn 't treat her right at all, and he physically abuses her. Throughout the movie, she goes out and learns how to fight so she can fight back against her abusive husband. The movie ends with her beating up her husband and running away with her daughter, never to see her husband again. She then lives with her daughter far away from the abusive husband and she then obtains peace of heart and mind, and she becomes happy for the rest of her life. I would not suggest beating up your significant other but I do suggest that if you have an abusive wife or husband then get a divorce because it is a perfect way to get away from a painful and horrible marriage. However, there are also many cons to divorce. One main reason why people do not get divorces anymore is because it 's too expensive. The price is so high because divorce attorneys may charge hourly fees of $75-$400, depending on the type of work done (How much does a divorce cost?, 2007). There may even be flat fees included varying from $200 for filing a motion to $10,000-$25,000 for handling all aspects of a divorce (How much does a divorce cost?, 2007). If you are paying an hourly rate for a divorce attorney, the total ranges from $20,000-$50,000 or more in complicated, highly emotional cases (How much does a divorce cost?, 2007). Many people nowadays are not that rich. There is a majority of people in poverty in the world who cannot provide the money for a divorce attorney. Since the price is so high, people tend to stick through their marriages and they might end up staying unhappy for the rest of their lives. Another con of divorce is that it can be emotionally devastating. Divorce is not a pleasant thing to go through. For example, "if a couple is getting a divorce but they have kids, it can be emotionally challenging for the parents to go through with this decision. If you don’t clearly explain to the children that they are not the ones to blame, they might try to take responsibility for the divorce. Additionally, a divorce can often place children in the middle of parents who don’t agree. The children may feel like they have to take sides, or that they have to become a different person when they are with each parent" (Landon, 2010). Married couples sometimes stay in bad marriages only for the sake of their children. This can be a terrible mistake on their part if there is abuse involved. By doing this parents generally put a mental burden on the children. Bringing up a child in an unhealthy environment where parents are always fighting and trying to put each other down is not a good example for your children. Religiously it is wrong to get a divorce. Marriage is a sacred thing and it should not be infringed or broken. When people get a divorce, they are breaking their marriage and it makes what they said in their vows all lies. When marrying somebody, you state "Till Death Do Us Part" in your vow, which means that only at death can the couple part ways. If they part ways in the middle of their marriage, then their marriage was a lie and it is a terrible sin to commit against God. Divorce can make you feel like a failure, undesirable or unloved. It can put you in a position where you are constantly reminded of former, perhaps happier, times, which then can bring about misery and sadness. There were approximately 2,230,000 marriages in 2005. The divorce rate in 2005 was 3.6 (per 1000 married couples), which was the lowest rate since 1970 and it went down from 4.2 in 2000 and from 4.7 in 1990. Americans tend to get married more between June and October than during the rest of the year. In 2005, August had the most marriages at about 235,000 or a rate of 9.3 per 1000 people. The previous year, July was the highest month at 246,000, or a rate of 9.9; this doubled the lowest month in 2004, January. In 2004, the state with the highest reported divorce rate was Nevada, at 6.4(per 1,000). Arkansas was a close second, with a divorce rate of 6.3, followed by Wyoming at 5.3. (Marriage and Divorce) Divorce brings about a lot of controversy. It can be very traumatic and hurtful but it can also be beneficial. I, myself, am caught in between this argument of divorce. I am in favor of women or men wishing to be separated if they do not want to be together anymore. However, I believe that if you marry someone, you are dedicating the rest of your life to being with that one person. Therefore you cannot just drop that person and the marriage and leave, I believe that is wrong.

References
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Landon, M. W. (2010, September 18). The Pros and Cons of Divorce. Retrieved March 19, 2013, from http://www.landonfamilylaw.com/blog/family-law/the-pros-and-cons-of-divorce/
Marriage and Divorce. (n.d.). Retrieved March 21, 2013, from http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsus.shtml

References: How much does a divorce cost? (2007, January). Retrieved March 19, 2013, from http://personalfinance.costhelper.com/divorce.html Landon, M. W. (2010, September 18). The Pros and Cons of Divorce. Retrieved March 19, 2013, from http://www.landonfamilylaw.com/blog/family-law/the-pros-and-cons-of-divorce/ Marriage and Divorce. (n.d.). Retrieved March 21, 2013, from http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsus.shtml