When the character, Arnold Friend, was introduced I did not expect that he would play the role of the enemy in the story, “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been.” When he arrives at Connie’s home, I began to question my hypothesis. Similarly, Connie’s view of the mysterious man is reformed as Arnold’s true nature is revealed. The realization begins when he discloses all the information he knows about Connie and the whereabouts of her family. This is when I, the reader, and the character begin to suspect that Arnold is not a respectable guy. She then notices his eerily pale skin, aged appearance, unsettling remarks, and seemingly stuffed shoes. These suspicions were confirmed once he spoke of his intentions.…
Arnold presents himself to be in Connie’s age group, but as the story progresses, there is evidence to support that he is not. When Arnold is introduced to Connie, she notices odd things that someone her age wouldn’t do. He, for instance, runs through many sayings as if he learned them but doesn’t know which one to use. Oates says, “Don't hem in on me, don't hog, don't crush, don't bird dog, don't trail me," he said in a rapid, meaningless voice, as if he were running through all the expressions he'd learned but was no longer sure which of them was in style, then rushing on to new ones, making them up with his eyes closed”…
Arnold Friend is a mysterious character and nothing is known about what happens to him and Connie after the story ends, but their short interaction could be compared to long-term abusive situations in relationships, friendships, and families. When Connie first interacts with Arnold he seems like a…
Tierce and Crafton’s theory that Arnold is a savior is flawed because they misunderstand Arnold Friend’s intentions of freeing Connie from the limitations of a child. Tierce and Crafton believe Arnold Friend was conjured up by Connie’s imagination. Tierce and Crafton believe that he is a manifestation of all the desires Connie holds in her heart. Her wish to be a grown woman created a messiah named Arnold Friend, who came to her to take her away from her father’s home and set her free, saying to Connie, “we’ll go out to a nice field, out in the country here where it smells so nice and it’s sunny”(Joyce Carol Oates, 515). Taking the innocence and limitations that her age brings allows her to leave and go with Arnold Friend (Connie’s Tambourine Man: A New Reading of Arnold Friend). He…
The final quote, “I ain’t made plans for coming in that house where I don’t belong” (Oates 318). Suggests Arnold knows he is an outsider, and does not quite blend in like a human. He is a narcissist and believes Connie supposed to cater to his needs. He thinks his presence is too good and the house does not deserve it, hinting why bother to think about stepping in that house where I do not belong. While asking himself, why do I have to in and get you? When there is no need for him to lift a finger because it is Connie, who has to come out to him. “but just for you to come out to me, the way you should” (Oates 318). It indicates, the minute Connie was born her destiny was sealed, she now belonged to Arnold. She might not know it now, but in…
Arnold Friend, is a middle-aged man that uses himself as bait to fool and befriend young Connie. His choice of appearance for himself to project as if he is the same age as Connie is, “light faded jeans stuffed into black, scuffed boots, a belt that pulled his waist in and showed how lean he was, and a white pull-over shirt that was a little soiled and showed the hard small muscles of his arms and shoulders.” With this appearance that Arnold Friend presents to Connie…
Arnold Friend has an interesting description in this story. He is described initially with “shaggy, shabby black hair that looked crazy as a wig.” He is also wearing metallic sunglasses that reflected everything. Eyes are known to be windows into the soul. The fact that his eyes were not able to be seen may suggest that he didn’t have a soul, another reference to the possibility of Arnold being Satan. He is also described has standing awkwardly, “He was standing in a strange way, leaning back against the car as if he were balancing himself” (468). He is has trouble walking, “She watched him take a step toward the porch lurching. He almost fell. But, like a clever drunken man, he managed to catch his balance. He wobbled in his high boots and grabbed hold of one of the porch posts” (472). It also says that the boots seem to be stuffed. Some argue the fact he “stuffs” his boots was to compensate for the hooves. The narrator also comments that his legs don’t seem to function like the average human legs. This could also be a reference to the hooves of Satan. His skin seems to be painted on, “His whole face was a mask… tanned down onto his throat but then running out as if he had plastered makeup on his face but had forgotten about his throat” (472). Satan can take the shape of his victim’s weakness. Connie’s weakness is boys, he is dressed as a teenage boy and Connie says that he isn’t bad looking but his demeanor is strange. She also doesn’t believe that he is just a “few” years older than she. He appears to be over compensating, using a dated expression such as “MAN THE FLYING SAUCERS” (469). This shows that he is trying to act…
Connie remarks Arnold Friend’s strange appearance, regarding his face, his hair, and his gait. At first, she likes his clothes, his muscles––but as she gets a closer look at him, she develops an off feeling about him. Arnold Friend’s face appears to be covered in makeup; his lashes are “thick and black as if painted with a black tar-like material” (ibid. 670). He has used makeup to cover his red skin (discussion in class). To Connie, his shaggy hair “[looks] as crazy as a wig” (Oates, 667). The wig is used to cover up his horns. He also cannot stand in his boots properly and stands “so stiffly relaxed… with…
She was not being cautious and allowed a creepy man to take advantage of the situation. If she did not go outside of her comfort zone to experiment with her maturity, then Arnold Friend might have never noticed her and taken advantage of her. As a teenager, you are very vulnerable and need to be very careful about who you hang out with, especially as a female in this day in age. Connie got too wrapped into her experimentation that she was unable to see a threat when it stood in her face. Arnold Friend gave off a very creepy aura when they first met in the plaza “He wagged a finger and laughed and said, ‘Gonna get you, baby,’ and Connie turned away again without Eddie noticing anything,” (319). She completely brushed this situation and did not think anything of it. If anything, she liked the attention that Arnold Friend gave her because he was an older man. Since Connie was so young, she hasn’t experienced anything threatening in her life. Therefore, when Arnold Friend came up to the driveway at Connie’s house, she wasn’t scared, she seemed interested about how this random guy is giving her this much attention. This is proved by how Connie is reacting in the beginning of their conversation at the house when the author says, “Connie blushed a little, because the glasses made it…
“Connie felt a wave of dizziness rise in her at this sight...” (86) The tone gets increasingly serious as the threat of violence spirals in Connie's meeting with Arnold Friend. The story takes place of 1960s - the standpoint of a teenager: drive-in restaurants, movie theaters, shopping malls, "ranch"-style homes. The ending is essentially tragic, Connie's submission to Arnold Friend standing for the ways women are oppressed in a patriarchal society. “Arnold Friend let go of the post tentatively and opened his arms for her..” (159).…
Connie asks Arnold and his friend to leave. Arnold refused to leave without her. Connie noticed he was wearing a wig. Arnold begins to describe Connie’s family at the Barbeque. He gives Connie details about what her sister was wearing. He also stated that Connie’s mother was shucking corn. Finally, Arnold refers to himself as Connie’s lover and shows his sexual intentions, upsetting…
This is also a representation of how he is able to “function is various social arrangements” because at first when he saw Connie at the drive-in theater, he did not hesitate to say that he will be coming for her and now that he is with her, he did not give up and kept a conversation going with Connie all this time. The evidence of this can also be seen in Personality and Individual Differences study which states, “Psychopathy is further associated with superficial charm” (Carter, Campbell, Muncer 58). This evidence goes stand in hand with the way that Arnold is showed his charm towards Connie. Connie then is prone to like Arnold even more because “Women may be responding to DT men’s ability to ‘sell themselves’” (Carter, Campbell, Muncer 60). Arnold is “selling” himself towards Connie since he is opening up as an emotional person after all. Thus, making Connie more vulnerable to liking him. It also shows how smart Arnold is because he “sells” himself in a ways that he knows is going to work because at the end he ends up taking Connie. By selling himself thought his charming ways, Arnold is makes Connie fall for…
If Connie had really been doing the right things, Arnold would have never seen her and none of this story would have really unfolded. However, Connie decided to try to show her independence and do what she wanted. Maybe Connie was looking for love, maybe she was looking for independence, but what she found was danger. Connie’s quest for independence had a dark and ominous end. Of course, it is not like this for everyone and some people are lucky.…
That is why Arnold’s knowledge is equivalent to things Connie would know. The whole interaction between Connie and Arnold is a premonition of what would happen if Connie gives into her sexual curiosity. The representation of “going for a ride never to return” is about her crossing the line of her losing her virginity. It’s not necessarily “death of her” but it is “death of her innocence”. That is something that she will never be able to get back. It’s just like how the interaction started with Arnold, “curious” and somewhat “amusing”, but the hard reality of the matter is it quickly turned “frightening”, “realistic”, and “overwhelming”. “She thought, I’m not going to see my mother again. She thought, I’m not going to sleep in my bed again.” (15/16) In this statement Connie is subconsciously thinking of the consequences of her actions if she “goes for a ride” with Arnold (gives into temptation). This is a reference to her parent’s disapproval and possible punishment, if they find out what she has…
A kid wants to be noticed, but some people don’t go about it the right way in order to get the attention that they are seeking. Connie gets her attention through the way in which she walks and the questionable clothing she wears. At some point a person has to at least have the awareness and maturity to know when they are on dangerous grounds. She is too innocent to realize that Arnold Friend is not there for good intentions but he is giving her the attention she wants from people so even if she has a bad feeling about him she still feels attracted as much as she feels repelled. “She couldn’t decide if she liked him or if he was just a jerk”(Oates 4). An adult woman who knows what to look for in a guy past his appearance would know right away that Arnold is not someone that they would want to be associated with. Innocence becomes dangerous in this story considering Connie really doesn’t know any better, for up to this point she hasn’t seen anything go wrong as a result of the way she was acting, but until something was too show her that her ways were wrong she could never know to stop doing what she was doing in which case eventually her innocence was going to hurt her. A person cannot mature past their child like behaviors until that innocence that they once had is lost and until then they cannot get out of the stage in which they are…