True Love

True Love At Its Finest.

“If it is truly meant to be, it will be” Whoever thought of this quote is a genius, I think everyone can relate to it in some sort of way.
When we are young and vulnerable we may think that out significant other is the one we might want to spend the rest of our lives with. But honestly, it does not always end up in your favor, you might be one of the lucky ones and they might be “the one” for you. More times than not we end up breaking off the relationship, moving on with our lives, and finding someone, or sometimes even a few people, other than them. Moving on to another person that makes us feel perfect. I mean, who doesn’t want to be adored, loved, and cared for? I think that the heart longs for that feeling. You might think you love someone, but your heart is the only one who really knows what your true feelings are. When your heart feels satisfied, you will know, and you will feel it. That is how you will know when you are truly in-love. People are always looking for love, but, why not let love find you? Why lose memories by searching for someone.
All my life my grandma would always help me get over a “break-up” with a guy. She would help me understand, by telling me repeatedly, that “if it is truly meant to be, it will be”. At first, it was hard to believe because it is way easier said than done. She told me her story, and it was then that I became a believer. My grandma became friends with a boy named Robert in 1967 when she was in 8th grade. They stayed close and continued their friendship until they both thought that they should take the next step. They decided to be boyfriend and girlfriend. My grandma says “It really was love at first sight”. My grandma’s mother really did not appreciate her daughter dating she said that she was “too young”. My great grandma became even stricter than before. Every now and then they would get to go out together, but it was hard for them to do much because of my great grandma. Eventually, he got tired of waiting around for her and they broke up. They stayed friends up until graduation.
Robert got married, had a daughter, and later got a divorce. He was also constantly moving as he was in the service. My grandma also moved and got married, later got divorced, and then got married again to Dennis. She was with him for 28 years; they had my mom and my aunt together. The relationship she had with him was not goof at all. She needed to remove herself from that situation; she was worried something bad was going to happen to one of them.
At the end of 1990 my grandma came back home to Kenosha. Two weeks after she was home she got a phone call. It was Robert who had been calling. She asked him “how did you know I was home?” he said that he always remembered the number and he just had a gut feeling. So after talking for a while they decided to go out to dinner.
They went out to a nice restaurant and when she got there, there was a rose and champagne. They both agreed that this was in fact their “first date” after how many years. During the course of the evening they talked and she told him that she didn’t know what she wanted and she didn’t want to hurt him. He told her to take a year to herself and think about what she wanted. She spent a lot of time with my family doing enjoyable things. She was having the time of her life, without a worry on her mind, except one thing.
It was a year later, the end of 2001, she called him up and decided to ask to take him out to dinner, she told him that she didn’t know if he was in a serious relationship but it didn’t matter to her, she just wanted to be friends. She didn’t hear back from him for quite a while but she waited. She later found out he was out of time for a few days for work. They finally went out as a couple. Obviously, things went good; she moved in with him in September of 2002. As of today they have been living together for 11 years. They are so happy together. She says it was “meant to be” and it sure was. He accepts everything about her, and loves her for her. They do plan on getting married eventually someday, but I don’t need a piece of paper saying he is my grandpa. I know in my heart that he is supposed to be my grandpa.
For better or worse, I believe that if it is meant to be, it will be. Let love find you. You will be much happier letting it come naturally instead of forcing it. Listen to your heart; it knows you better than anyone.