In the short story, "Uncle Chul Gets Rich", written by CHANG-RAE LEE, the author tells us about the conflict between his uncle and the author’s mother. He describes uncle Chul as a fun guy and his mother as a critical woman, who keeps the Korean traditional views. When Uncle Chul gets rich, his views don’t change throughout the story. After he proved himself, he still looks for the mother’s approval. The mother doesn’t care about his success and still criticizes him. As uncle Chul becomes an adult his views stay the same, only his actions change. Even though uncle Chul reaches his goals he still look at himself as a failure in the eyes of the mother. Throughout the short story the author tells us about the uncle’s conflict with the mother, how his views changed and what his views are when he becomes an adult.…
Many Chinese mothers and Americanized daughters have trouble understanding each other and this problem can only be solved through accepting each other's values and their differences. In the chapter,Two Kinds, from the book "The Joy Luck Club" by Amy Tan exposes the values of a Chinese mother, Suyuan and her Americanized daughter, Jing-mei about living in America. After seeing many articles and stories about prodigies, Suyuan innocently believes her daughter can be one too. At first, Jing-mei was ecstatic about the idea but through constant disappointment from her mother, Jing-mei became idiotically determined to disappoint her mother even more. Pursuing this further, Suyuan thought Jing-mei can be a virtuoso pianist…
After Jing Mei and her mother both gave up on Jing Mei becoming a prodigy, her mother told her that she “could been genius…” and that she “just not trying…” (Tan, 143). This shows that all that time the Jing Mei thought her mother wanted her to be something different than what she was, she really just wanted her to try and do her best at everything she could. Though she went about it the wrong way, Jing Mei’s mother always meant well. A similar problem occurs with Mike and his father Billy in Friday Night Lights. Mike’s father treasured Mike more than anything, even his brother tells him that he was “the most special thing in his life” (Bissinger, 74). Billy always pushed Mike to be his best, telling him he had to go to college, and how much he wanted him to play for Permian. After Billy’s death, however, Mike wanted to leave Odessa, and Joe Bill talked him out of it, using the “power of Permian football” (Bissinger, 74) to make him stay. This shows that where Mike found his father’s wishes a tough thing to do, Billy always meant well. Mike stressed over trying to make his father proud, but all Billy really wanted to do is give Mike incentive to trying to be…
In the article, Adapted from Battle of Hymn of the Tiger Mother the author Amy Chua’s intent is to describe the differences between Chinese and Western parenting styles. She begins by explaining her personal parenting style and although her parenting style brings controversy it also demonstrates what a parent will do in order to help their children be successful. After all, a parent’s true purpose is to do what is best for their children.…
However, Jing-mei began to learn playing the piano with Mr.Chong and participated in the contest of piano. As usual, the result was the worst. After the contest, she said “I’m not going to play anymore, Why should I? I’m not a genius.” She thought her mother wanted her to be a genius and she didn't want to be someone that she was not. But her mother demands forcibly just like always.…
Only one kind of daughter can live in this hous. Obedient daughter” she shouted in chinese. “Then I wish I wasn’t your daughter, I wish you weren’t my mother” (Chunk 6 paragraph 11, 12). As a Chinese immigrant Jing Mei’s mother gets the idea from television shows and magazines and she does not question the validity of these sources. She meanswhile pushes her daughter to be the best but on the other hand Jing Mei cannot see the value of showing dedication to her mother’s goal, practicing a skill, or collaborating with her mother’s plan because they are both separated by a factor; Culture. After her mother’s death she gains insight into her mother’s underlying motives. In addition Rudy Puana learned to be true in spite of his difficulties in life.…
The introduction of Mother Inferior by Hanna Rosin contains an excellent anecdote that puts Rosin in a position of defence for her parenting style against Amy Chua’s Chinese-style parenting. The anecdote, which her 2-year-old son calls her a “kitty kat” when she was acting out “tiger,” reveals her position amongst other parents in the standards set by Amy Chua. However, this does not break her as a parent, nor does it cause her to rethink what she does for her kids. Instead, Rosin defends herself by to criticizing “Ms. Chua’s parenting prescription,” and exemplifying her children’s upbringing through “’spontaneity, freedom, discovery, and experience.’”…
Jing-mei always had a troubled relationship with her mother, so when Suyuan dies, she has to deal with her grief, frustration, and her many questions. She never understood why her mother was never satisfied with her. She never knew the whole story of hermother 's previous life in China. She does not speak Chinese fluently, and she tried to reject Chinese culture and even, for a while, believed that she was not Chinese at all. After her mother 'sdeath, she begins to see that her mother 's history is part of her, and China is part of her identity. When she finally meets hermother 's other daughters in China, she feels like she has her mother back. She also begins to see that though they often fought and rarely saw eye to eye, her mother did love her and understood her, at times, even better than she understood…
Jing-mei (June) Woo, the character, is a symbol herself of Westernization of Chinese-Americans. Once she travels to China to visit her deceased mother, she realizes what Chinese culture is all about and what she has been culturally unaware of all this time. Jing-mei and the other daughters always identified themselves as Americans, but often doubted whether or not they should be speaking the Chinese language to keep their cultural identity alive within themselves. Additionally, Jing-mei is representative of Chinese and American comparisons in culture. The mothers in this novel maintained high expectations of their daughters, emphasizing filial obedience and giving constructive criticism all the time. These experiences clashed with American virtues of free speech and free will. After her visit to China, Jing-mei resolves the missing cultural values of herself and the Joy Luck Club and…
The central idea in this story seems to be the mother’s search of an understanding of her daughter’s personality and outlook on life. The majority of the story is the mother trying to depict reasons for why her daughter is the way she is, so delicate, reserved, needless, and even unhappy at times. She seems to also defend her parenting choices by making excuses or blaming the urges of others in order to not have all the blame on her. She speaks about how she had no other option but to put her in the care of someone else at the age of two, even though she knew the teacher was “evil” (Pg. 925). “It was the only place there was…the only way I could hold a job” (pg. 925).…
raise other successful children In the article about the superiority of Chinese mothers as opposed…
What is the best way to bring up a child, let them choose their own activities in school and after school, let them have play dates, play videogames and let them choose their way in life, and let learn that is okay to make mistakes like the western upbringing or the Chinese way, where you decide what’s best for the child, don’t give them any spare time and demands perfect grades, which way will create a happy child. Amy Chua has chosen the second upbringing for her children, and is defending the Chinese mothers in the article “Why Chinese mothers are superior”.…
The story Two Kinds is about a Chinese girl, Jing-Mei, who lives life trying to find herself under her over-bearing mother’s envisions and high expectations of what she feels Jing-Mei should become. The subject of the mother-daughter dynamic and lack of obedience is revealed from the beginning of the story; as well as the fact their relationship is rather conflicted. Throughout the story Jing-Mei is very obstructive to the ideas her mom puts forth. Her constant acts of disobeying and rebelling against her mom orders, express how the tension arose between Jing-Mei and her mom. The fact her mom had an extremely difficult life in China until she lost everything and moved to America, explains and sort of justifies why she was so obsessed with Jing-Mei excelling and making something of her, life in addition to her desire of wanting to be able to brag. Unfortunately, rather than allowing Jing-Mei to find something she was comfortable with and make an independent decision of what she wanted in her life, she forced activities and ideas on her which eventually resulted in Jing-Mei becoming rebellious. As Jing-Mei became rebellious, her mom implemented her…
Suyuan had to make the hard decision to leave her twin babies on the side of the road in hopes some kind stranger would take them in, that way she would not have to see them die. Suyuan searches for her babies all through her life in America, sending multitudes of letters; they finally get in touch with her two months after she has died. Because her mother is not alive to meet her children, Jing Mei takes her place and the trip enables her to finally recognize her Chinese ancestry. The minute she enters China she "feels different" and can realize that she is "becoming Chinese" (306). At fifteen Jing Mei believed she was only as Chinese as her "Caucasian friends" (306). Yet her mother counters thoughts, telling her: "Once you are born Chinese, you cannot help but feel and think Chinese" (306). Once in China Jing Mei decides her mother was right and she "has never really known what it meant to be Chinese" (307). She has never understood her mother or her heritage. This trip is the connecting link to understanding her life. She begins to feel natural in China, thinking to herself on the train: "I am in China It feels right" (312). Jing Mei sees the landscape, the people, the histories, and the families in China and sees where her mother was speaking from all of those years. She knows a "little percent" of her mother know (15). It becomes "obvious" to Jing Mei to see what "part of [her] is Chinese"; it is "in her family, in her blood"…
As youth development and growth become an important study in our society, there are many controversial opinions regarding the best method of parenting. Amy Chua argues in her essay, “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” that children raised from Chinese mothers are more successful than those raised by Western mothers. She believes that Chinese children attain exceptional achievements from forced training and develop a stronger self-esteem from parental insults. As evidence to support her argument, Chua uses her daughters to show the success of kids raised from a Chinese mother. From my perspective, forcing and insulting a child is not a healthy way to raise children. There is also a lack of complete evidence in Chua’s essay as she only uses her own two daughters to show that the Chinese-style parenting method is indeed “superior” compared to the laissez-fare, Western style of parenting. Overall, Chua raises a debatable argument in stating that the Chinese method of using strict discipline to the extremes will raise “successful children”.…