Uniquely Handling Conflict Analysis
Uniquely Handling Conflict
Without exception, each person will inevitably be forced to handle conflict. What makes each person unique, however, is the way that they personally handle it. Conflict styles are designed responses, or behaviors, that people use while facing conflict (Hocker & Wilmont, 2014.) Since conflict is usually an emotion filled, short lived experience, I have never truly examined the way I go about it, until now.
Growing up, I had always been taught to treat people with respect. Since I was a young girl, I have made it my personal mission to try to dodge conflict as much as I possibly can. As I have become older, however, I am finding it more difficult than ever to do so. As I am more inclined than ever to have my own voice, …show more content…
I found that most of the time, I do. For example, if I must face a conflict head on, I start off extremely submissive and then adjust based on if the person is taking advantage of that or not. If they are, I will be more stern in what I need from the person. My flaw is, if I am being assertive and the person is still not understanding, I will back down. I do this because I do not wish to be unkind or disrespectful. As a result of this, others often to do the same thing with me. For example, since I am usually extremely submissive in a conflict, I find people often taking advantage of my clarity, yet niceness. Therefore, they either continue acting on the behavior that is unwanted or simply override what I say. If I were to be more powerful with my response to conflict, I would most likely receive different results from …show more content…
Although, as a self aware person, I have always had a pretty solid grasp of how I handle situations, it is very clarifying to see it written out and fully unraveled. Consequently, there are things I would like to change about my style of conflict. The main one being that I should begin learning how to further assert myself. Although, I have an easier time doing this with people I am closest to and most comfortable with, such as my boyfriend or Mother, I almost never show anything other than submissiveness to most people in conflict. I think that standing up for myself when needed is vital. It is not harsh to explain why what someone did to you is wrong, and I should not be afraid to do so. Even though, in the moment, it is easier said than done, I believe that I can work toward finding the balance between being myself and demanding
Without exception, each person will inevitably be forced to handle conflict. What makes each person unique, however, is the way that they personally handle it. Conflict styles are designed responses, or behaviors, that people use while facing conflict (Hocker & Wilmont, 2014.) Since conflict is usually an emotion filled, short lived experience, I have never truly examined the way I go about it, until now.
Growing up, I had always been taught to treat people with respect. Since I was a young girl, I have made it my personal mission to try to dodge conflict as much as I possibly can. As I have become older, however, I am finding it more difficult than ever to do so. As I am more inclined than ever to have my own voice, …show more content…
I found that most of the time, I do. For example, if I must face a conflict head on, I start off extremely submissive and then adjust based on if the person is taking advantage of that or not. If they are, I will be more stern in what I need from the person. My flaw is, if I am being assertive and the person is still not understanding, I will back down. I do this because I do not wish to be unkind or disrespectful. As a result of this, others often to do the same thing with me. For example, since I am usually extremely submissive in a conflict, I find people often taking advantage of my clarity, yet niceness. Therefore, they either continue acting on the behavior that is unwanted or simply override what I say. If I were to be more powerful with my response to conflict, I would most likely receive different results from …show more content…
Although, as a self aware person, I have always had a pretty solid grasp of how I handle situations, it is very clarifying to see it written out and fully unraveled. Consequently, there are things I would like to change about my style of conflict. The main one being that I should begin learning how to further assert myself. Although, I have an easier time doing this with people I am closest to and most comfortable with, such as my boyfriend or Mother, I almost never show anything other than submissiveness to most people in conflict. I think that standing up for myself when needed is vital. It is not harsh to explain why what someone did to you is wrong, and I should not be afraid to do so. Even though, in the moment, it is easier said than done, I believe that I can work toward finding the balance between being myself and demanding