Mr X stated that he has been employed as an estate agent in the same company for 18 years. During this time he has regularly demonstrated that he is capable of successfully executing the role of manager by “standing in” when the manager is absent. Despite this he is apprehensive to put himself forward as a candidate for the managerial position now that the role has been made available. The phrase, “he does not want to upset the apple cart if he is not successful.” immediately suggests that he has a fear of rejection because he will not put himself in a position where rejection is a possible outcome. Mr X also demonstrates hesitation to socialise with his colleagues because he believes they find him boring; but he is afraid to ask them to meet on another evening for fear of rejection. He is unable to socialise with them as they do so on Friday evenings which is when he visits his mother. He indicates that he does not feel comfortable suggesting any change to his mother because, “.... she would pick on him even more than usual.” This suggests that his mother is a controlling, critical parent and that Mr X will do anything to avoid displeasing her. Mr X wants his mother’s approval but fears her rejection if he fails. He indicates he is capable of emotional attachment however he cannot express them. This is shown in his description of his girlfriend as a “sort of” girlfriend but he say he would like to marry her. This suggests that he has not discussed his feelings nor has he established the nature of the relationship with his girlfriend because he is scared of her rejection.
In my evaluation Mr X is presenting with self-confidence and self-esteem issues in addition to having a great fear of rejection and failure. Before pursuing any potential course of treatment I
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