When I Was Too Americanized

1. My husband Kevin and I went out for a year, and, during that time, we fought until we got sick of it. We fought about the stupid things all couples fight about, but the main thing that came between us was something that other couples probably don't have to deal with. We constantly argued about whether I was too Americanized.
2. Kevin and I both came to the United States from Korea five years ago. Although we had this in common, we had different points of view on everything. He would ask me why I couldn't be like other Korean women. If I were a "real" Korean woman, I would listen to him when he asked me to do something, depend on him for most things, and think his way instead of my way. When I didn't agree with him, we would have another fight. To me, he was too Korean and too narrow-minded. He refused to accept any culture except his own, and he always thought his way was the only way.
I eat Korean food, speak Korean, have respect for my parents as Koreans have, and I celebrate Korean holidays and traditional days. I even joined the Korean Club in school, so that I can observe my customs with Korean friends.
4. During the past five years, however, I have come to love certain customs from other cultures. For example, I see the way my American friends greet people with affection. They hug when they say "hello," and I love this. (In Korea, people are much more formal; they just shake hands and bow to each other out of respect.) So I started hugging my friends,