When you deserve each other

When you deserve each other “In vain have I struggled? It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.” Hearing Mr. Darcy’s strong admiration, Elizabeth’s astonishment was beyond expression. In spite of her deeply-rooted dislike, she could not be insensible to the compliment of such a man’s affection. But why Elizabeth refused him so tough, with so little endeavor at civility? Was this refusal merely because Mr. Darcy’s disagreeable arrogance or his definition that his proposal was degradation against his will, against his reason, and even against his character? I had no clear idea at first.

However, when Elizabeth realized Mr. Darcy’s gradually changed character and his many amiable qualities including his voluntary help for poor Lydia, her prejudice and misunderstanding were disappeared; instead she fell in love with Mr. Darcy and accepted his second proposal. What impressed me most was Elizabeth’s father, Mr. Bennett’s response towards this engagement; he said, “I know your disposition, Lizzy. I know that you could be neither happy nor respectable, unless you truly esteemed your husband, unless you looked up to him as a superior. My child, let me not have the grief of seeing you unable to respect your partner in life.”

Mr. Bennett’s words gave me great shock. It suddenly occurred to me why Elizabeth refused the proposals made by both Mr. Collins and Mr. Darcy. What a pathetic thing when you find you are unable to respect your life-long partner! Mr. Bennett’s marriage was definitely a failure. He was so odd a mixture of quick parts, sarcastic humor, reserve and caprice, while Mrs. Bennett was a woman of mean understanding, little information, uncertain temper and poor nerves. Mr. Bennett was fatigued with his wife’s philistine behaviors and sadly found his wife never deserved his truly respect; therefore he had despaired of his marriage. Elizabeth regarded her parents’ failure as