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Why Do People Talk About Others?
I have written my first essay. It took me hours and hours, and I just gave up.
Please provide some constructive feedback. I know nothing beats practise, practise, practise, but some guide in the right direction would be muchly appreciated.

Thanking in advise. Here goes: -

We cannot control the evil tongues of others; but a good life enables us to disregard them. Cato the Elder (234 BC – 149 BC)

There is so much good in the worst of us, And so much bad in the best of us, That it hardly behooves any of us To talk about the rest of us. Edward Wallis Hoch (1849 – 1925), Marion (Kansas) Record

Never tell evil of a man, if you do not know it for certainty, and if you know it for a certainty, then ask yourself, 'Why should I tell it?' Johann K. Lavater

A rumor without a leg to stand on will get around some other way. John Tudor

Scandal is gossip made tedious by morality. Oscar Wilde (1854 – 1900), Lady Windermere's Fan, 1892, Act III

Why do we talk about other people?

Oscar Wilde's statement "Scandal is gossip made tedious by morality" shows something of the reason we talk about other people.
Gossip relieves boredom. Gossiping carries such a negative connotation that few will proudly own to have done so, but few can say that they have not.

Even John Tudor suggests that gossiping is a wide spread method of relieving boredom, when he said "A rumour without a leg to stand on will get around some other way."
For this reason, I somewhat agree with Cato the Elder's quote "We cannot control the evil tongues of others, but a good life enables us to disregard them." For gossip is so common as to be unavoidable.
If gossip causes one discomfort, one will be living with discomfort all their life. Is it not a good life's phillosphy to accept this fact and not let other's 'evil' tongue bother you?

While accepting gossiping is a part of life, others attempt to advise us against gossiping.
Edward Willis Hoch's quote" There is so much good in the

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