Why Do We Fall in Love?
What lies behind the attraction between the sexes? Sexuality is a subject about which no one is neutral. Everyone has a sexual nature, everyone has a need for sexuality, everyone has a sexual personality that has been formed by home, schooling, the trial and error of life experience, and whatever they pick up along the way from the subtle and notosoosubtle influences of the society in which they live.
In seeking to make sense of our sexuality we must look to its origins. Where does our sexuality come from? In this article, I would like to look at two approaches to that question.
Is the mystique and the romance, the music and the moonlight, just nature 's way of hoodwinking men and women to reproduce? One is the prevalent, contemporary, scientific approach. And then we 'll contrast it with the Torah approach o specifically, the KabbalisticoChassidic perspective on Torah.
There are, of course, numerous secularoscientific theories of sexuality. Let us examine what is probably the most dominant one: the biological or evolutionary theory which is essentially based on the idea that "the survival of the fittest" is the primary force in nature and the source of any given creature 's particular characteristics, from single cells right up the "evolutionary chain" to animals and humans.
From this perspective, our sexuality derives from the fact that the perpetuation of the species is achieved through a sexual relationship between a male and a female. The male will therefore search for the female that is most fertile, and that will bear the healthiest offspring; and the female will search for a male that provides the healthiest seed, that is the most virile and that will protect the young.
This theory explains many things about our sexuality. It explains why men and women seek out and mate with each other. It explains why certain features in the woman or in the man are extremely enticing to the opposite sex because they reflect on elements of fertility or signs
In seeking to make sense of our sexuality we must look to its origins. Where does our sexuality come from? In this article, I would like to look at two approaches to that question.
Is the mystique and the romance, the music and the moonlight, just nature 's way of hoodwinking men and women to reproduce? One is the prevalent, contemporary, scientific approach. And then we 'll contrast it with the Torah approach o specifically, the KabbalisticoChassidic perspective on Torah.
There are, of course, numerous secularoscientific theories of sexuality. Let us examine what is probably the most dominant one: the biological or evolutionary theory which is essentially based on the idea that "the survival of the fittest" is the primary force in nature and the source of any given creature 's particular characteristics, from single cells right up the "evolutionary chain" to animals and humans.
From this perspective, our sexuality derives from the fact that the perpetuation of the species is achieved through a sexual relationship between a male and a female. The male will therefore search for the female that is most fertile, and that will bear the healthiest offspring; and the female will search for a male that provides the healthiest seed, that is the most virile and that will protect the young.
This theory explains many things about our sexuality. It explains why men and women seek out and mate with each other. It explains why certain features in the woman or in the man are extremely enticing to the opposite sex because they reflect on elements of fertility or signs