Why Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus.
Why men are from Mars and women are from Venus.
Are there any differences on how women and men talk? This is a question many people ponder on everyday. It is easy to assume that because English belongs to the person who uses it, men and women would likely to talk the same way but that may not be the case. Linguistics experts had proven that shown that men and women communicate in different ways. Speech style, word use, and body language are apparent between men and women. Women focus more on making connections, while men generally focus on public contexts where informative and persuasive talk is highly valued and appreciated.
In the essay “I 'll Explain it to you: Lecturing and Listening" by Deborah Tannen, she believes that even though men and women speak the same lingua franca, but their affirmation of support, conversational patterns and body language are very different. In the earlier years of development, Tannen observes that girls use speech to find confirmation and establish intimacy, whereas boys use speech to assert their independence and attain social status (283-5). In a study by psychologist H. M. Leet-Pellegrini who set to find out how men and women communicate with each other and who is more dominant in a conversation. (Tannen 284). When women are listening, they will show support by saying things like “Yeah” and “That’s right”, even though they are more knowledgeable than the men on that particular topic (Tannen 283). However, this may not be the case for men. Tannen states that when it is the other way around, men tend to say something like “So you’re the expert.” (283). It showed that when women has superior amount of knowledge than the men, “It will sparked resentment, not respect”, and because of that "Women are inclined to play down their expertise rather than display it." (Tannen 283). Women are scared to express their opinion because of what other people will think of them. Tannen feels that men are always trying to grab the leadership
Are there any differences on how women and men talk? This is a question many people ponder on everyday. It is easy to assume that because English belongs to the person who uses it, men and women would likely to talk the same way but that may not be the case. Linguistics experts had proven that shown that men and women communicate in different ways. Speech style, word use, and body language are apparent between men and women. Women focus more on making connections, while men generally focus on public contexts where informative and persuasive talk is highly valued and appreciated.
In the essay “I 'll Explain it to you: Lecturing and Listening" by Deborah Tannen, she believes that even though men and women speak the same lingua franca, but their affirmation of support, conversational patterns and body language are very different. In the earlier years of development, Tannen observes that girls use speech to find confirmation and establish intimacy, whereas boys use speech to assert their independence and attain social status (283-5). In a study by psychologist H. M. Leet-Pellegrini who set to find out how men and women communicate with each other and who is more dominant in a conversation. (Tannen 284). When women are listening, they will show support by saying things like “Yeah” and “That’s right”, even though they are more knowledgeable than the men on that particular topic (Tannen 283). However, this may not be the case for men. Tannen states that when it is the other way around, men tend to say something like “So you’re the expert.” (283). It showed that when women has superior amount of knowledge than the men, “It will sparked resentment, not respect”, and because of that "Women are inclined to play down their expertise rather than display it." (Tannen 283). Women are scared to express their opinion because of what other people will think of them. Tannen feels that men are always trying to grab the leadership
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