"The quality of putting others before yourself is a great way to build your self-esteem and continue to those who need you at the same time". This quote that was one said by Sonora Roy preaches the importance of caring for others.Being mostly concerned about yourself will make you a narcissist. When we care for others, we usually receive the love from them in return.…
Rather then being myself, I was too concerned about trying to be like everyone else around me and it turned out to be a huge mistake. In Strick’s essay, she mentions that “Competition keeps getting in the way.” (207). This statement is very true for me. In my situation, my competition was all the high school students that surrounded me. I wanted to be more like them, rather then just being myself.…
Because your self-image is connected to the thoughts and judgments of other people, it is impossible to hold a view of yourself that is separate and distinct from the opinions and judgments of others.…
“Our paradigms, correct or incorrect, are the sources of our attitudes and behaviors, and ultimately our relationships with others” – Steven R. Covey. Our paradigm is how we see the world; it influences our frame of reference based primarily on our own experiences; we see the world not as it is, but as we are – or are conditioned to see it. Sometimes our paradigms are simply dead wrong; often we feel validated by what other people tell us about ourselves. If we were once told that you are not a good student, good employee or good person, our nature if often to believe those things about ourselves even if they are not true. Humans naturally tend to live out of their memories and social mirrors which make us insecure and vulnerable; instead, Dr. Covey encourages us to change our self-map by looking internally and finding new ways of thinking.…
A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us." (18)…
ourselves so much that we make people feel least as a human. In effect of this, we are not…
Invidious comparison is comparing oneself to others by race, sex, religion, or class. Such comparison could lessen one's self esteem. How can we put a stop to this? The first step is to understand and accept differences. No two people are alike and there will always be someone smarter, stronger, more attractive, thinner, or wealthier. We must acknowledge our strengths and other strengths and stop dwelling on weaknesses. Count what you have and not what you don’t have. Be OK with imperfection and work on goals to improve yourself.…
When others bring themselves higher than other people, others may not think that they are better but will also prove to them that they are not. In real life people have higher grades than me and show it off so i do is prove that i am equally as smart and get good grades aswell and there won’t be any…
Theodore Roosevelt knew the truth when he said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” So much pain and suffering comes from comparison. How many of the world’s problems would have resolutions if people no longer compared? Less hatred; anger; unhappiness; insecurity; and frustration would exist. Love would appear more commonly in people’s lives. Comparison truly blinds people to the goodness of…
According to the book, Looking Out, Looking In, self-concept is the relatively stable set of perceptions that we hold of ourselves. Quite simply, it is who we think we are and how we view ourselves as a whole; physically and emotionally, as well as the values, roles, talents, likes, dislikes, etc. that give us a sense of who we are. Our age, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, physical abilities/disabilities, culture, ethnicity, and gender are the factors that form the foundation of who we are, and they therefore establish the base of our self-concept. As stated by Looking Out, Looking In, our self-concept is also largely shaped by others through reflected appraisal; which is how we believe others see us, and through social comparison; which is how we compare with others. Reflected appraisal forms our views of ourselves and provides evidence that these views are correct, while social comparison does this by allowing us to measure ourselves compared to others. These are essential to building our self-concept because a person, for instance, cannot consider himself to be smart unless people have told him either directly or indirectly that he is smart (reflected appraisal), or unless he is comparatively smarter than the people around him (social comparison). Through these two processes of reflected appraisal and social comparison, this person will then have a self-concept of his intelligence; this is a key way of how we form a self-concept of all of our attributes and characteristics.…
Recently on the internet, there has been a meme circling around. It starts with a person about to engage in something ridiculous, such as shaving their eyebrows, cutting their hair, etc. However, they stop at the last second, turning to the camera to say, “Don’t ever judge a book by its cover.” Though this meme is purely for entertainment purposes, the concept of making unfair judgements has been around for generations. Consequently, ample authors use the theme of not judging others in their works. For example, in Measure for Measure by William Shakespeare, the character Isabella argues that, “We cannot weigh our brother with ourself” (2.2.156). This quote can be interpreted in quite a few different ways, but the two that are the most prominent are that you cannot compare the actions of one human being to another, and that the only person you have the right to judge is yourself.…
In considering the self, it is important to look at our own views of self and how we have seen others view themselves. In responding to the following discussion, utilize the concepts of self you read about in Chapter 3.…
How we feel about ourselves has a great deal to do with our own experiences throughout our life. For example - poor self-esteem in an adult could be due to being constantly shouted at, belittled, and blamed for things as a child. But experiences in adult life could affect how people feel about themselves, for example:…
7. When you compare yourself to others, you usually compare up and thus feel badly in comparison.…
This confusion embodied itself into a mountainous, far-reaching wall, and I had miraculously found a ladder in which to overcome the blockade and transport myself into a plain of understanding. Once I reached the other side, I realized how lonesome it was, and it isolated me from the rest of my class. I do not favor a position of being the only person who does well in an environment; I believe withholding knowledge for the sake of being the only person who can excel is a corrupt logical stance. A disheartening multitude of individuals in school wish to compete with me in academics and other means, but I am a firm believer that we can all win by elevating each other and working together. There is more to life than trying to be the “best,” and the notion that a singular person is somehow “best” in all aspects due to grades alone is absurd. The only person I compete with is myself, and I do not compare my own worth by using other’s accomplishments as a template, because we all face differing…