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When thinking about conflicts that I have encountered in my life I focused on one that was very hard to manage, which was between my sister and I. My sister and I were only a year and a half in age difference, therefore when I turned 16 and received my license that meant her and I shared a car. With this new responsibility came conflict. Such that, there would be times where we would both need the car which obviously was not possible.
This situation created conflict with not only my sister but my parents as well. Since my sister was the oldest my parents believed that she had top priority over the car. Therefore, I was stuck with either not being able to go out or my parents would drive me. As a sixteen year old, having my parents drive me somewhere was not ideal whatsoever. This situation is definitely considered a conflict because there is perceived incompatible goals, perceived inference of achieving goals, and opposing viewpoints. My parents believed because my sister was the oldest that she had first priority over the car, which I believed was not fair whatsoever.
I believe that ineffective communication was involved with both parties in this conflict.
Not only was there screaming and ineffective nonverbal communication such as, stomping feet while going up the stairs, slamming the bedroom door shut, rolling of the eyes, and not facing my parents in body orientation. I would say that my parents used polarized terms, such as saying
“Because I said so.” as an excuse of why I was not able to take the car over my sister.
This conflict would also begin to escalate at times. Such that the fight would turn into something else other than me not having the car that day. This was escalated by the behaviors connected to the conflict. My parents constantly said that I was being ungrateful and that I
should be happy because I actually have a car. Yet, it felt like I did not have a car because I was never able to drive anywhere.
When thinking about conflicts that I have encountered in my life I focused on one that was very hard to manage, which was between my sister and I. My sister and I were only a year and a half in age difference, therefore when I turned 16 and received my license that meant her and I shared a car. With this new responsibility came conflict. Such that, there would be times where we would both need the car which obviously was not possible.
This situation created conflict with not only my sister but my parents as well. Since my sister was the oldest my parents believed that she had top priority over the car. Therefore, I was stuck with either not being able to go out or my parents would drive me. As a sixteen year old, having my parents drive me somewhere was not ideal whatsoever. This situation is definitely considered a conflict because there is perceived incompatible goals, perceived inference of achieving goals, and opposing viewpoints. My parents believed because my sister was the oldest that she had first priority over the car, which I believed was not fair whatsoever.
I believe that ineffective communication was involved with both parties in this conflict.
Not only was there screaming and ineffective nonverbal communication such as, stomping feet while going up the stairs, slamming the bedroom door shut, rolling of the eyes, and not facing my parents in body orientation. I would say that my parents used polarized terms, such as saying
“Because I said so.” as an excuse of why I was not able to take the car over my sister.
This conflict would also begin to escalate at times. Such that the fight would turn into something else other than me not having the car that day. This was escalated by the behaviors connected to the conflict. My parents constantly said that I was being ungrateful and that I
should be happy because I actually have a car. Yet, it felt like I did not have a car because I was never able to drive anywhere.