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The consequences and effects of bullying are very bad. According to statistics from Smithtown Elementary School, by age twenty-three children who were identified as bullies in Middle school suffered from depression and low self-esteem than their peers who were not bullies. By age twenty-four, sixty percent of identified bullies had a criminal record. Bullies are less likely to finish college or locate long-term employment. Children who are labeled as bullies by their peers require more support as adults from government agencies, have more court convictions, more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, have more anti-social personality disorders, and use more mental health services. Children are lonely and they suffer from punishments. The victims’ suffer from emotional stress and commit suicide later on.

Police report that seven students from Markville Secondary School were reported as being bullies and they hit children to steal their lunch money but they won’t reveal the names of the children. They were accused of beating up the children, stealing from them, and causing them severe bodily harms. Internet bullying goes on too, which is easier to hide from adults? There was this boy named David Knight and he brought a lawsuit against the people who wrote insulting statements about him while he was attending high school. “When I talk to parents, I strongly recommend they put the computer in the kitchen or someplace that they’re going to have an opportunity to walk by and see what their children are involved in.” Pepler, a psychologist from York University says.

Verbal bullying is far worse than physical bullying because it does not leave any physical scars and no one knows that that particular person is being bullied. This type of bullying makes the victim loose marks, isolated, sick, despair, depressed, and scared. This type of bullying makes the witnesses feel anxiety and fear.

Survey of ‘Save the child report’ shows that 10 percent of children eighteen years or younger are bullies in Canada. 1200 kids were interviewed. The teacher bullied Singer Boy George for four straight years. Bullying has become a worldwide issue. One third of the kids reported bullying or being bullied on a moderate or frequent basis. Tonja Nansel and her colleagues from Maryland’s National Institute of Child Health and Human Development reported.

There was a girl that I knew who was picked at school because her hair was too bushy. In my practicum placement, the children picked on other children because either they were jealous of that child because he/she had better things than them or because she was from a different country.

One boy named Bob was bullied in school and was tired of everyone picking on him. He had no friends and he was isolated from everyone. After a while, he couldn’t handle the stress anymore. So he went home one day, cleared out everything from his locker so his mother won’t have to do it after he was dead, went home, and decided to shoot himself. But on that day, while he was going home from school with his things, some of the boys were picking on him. One boy named Michael saw that he was being picked on decided to help Bob by standing up to the bully and by helping him carry his things home. After a while, both Bob and Michael became best friends and they stuck with each other forever since then. Bob graduated from high school and became a doctor. When he got is doctor’s degree, he revealed his secret that he had kept from Michael all along and that secret was that when Michael came up to Bob to stand up to him and to help him carry his things home, on that day, he had decided to commit suicide but thanks to Michael that he didn’t. Michael was horrified and relieved at the same time that Bob had not carried out the plan he had in mind. This is the story of my two friends but I am not going to reveal their real names because they want to keep it confidential.

The solution to bullying is that we need to get together and work as a community to stop this horrible nightmare. As parents, if they find out that their child is a bully, they need to stay calm, ask the child what he or she has been doing, ask the child if they have behaved like this before, contact school and work out an action plan with school, set limits and clear consequences, and teach their child good coping skills. The parents should teach their children how to manage good anger management and conflict solving skills, make it clear that violence is always unacceptable collect facts and make an individual plan, remain calm and be patient, and listen to the child and communicate with the school. If the child says that he or she was just kidding around, ask them questions about the child that they were kidding around with. For example, their likes and dislikes, their full name, the name of their parents and siblings. If they can’t answer these questions, then tell them that it’s not just kidding around.