Parental relationship has deteriorated over time; mother and daughter became closer while the father became more distant from both the mother and daughter. Mother and daughter have become enmeshed and are somewhat estranged from Dad. Dad perceives his relationship to both in a fairly linear way and expresses his love in providing for the family rather than in overt emotional ways. He learned this role from his father. Daughter does some drinking with Mom and also with friends, so further investigation of her drinking behavior is warranted.…
What is alcoholism? That seems to be a perplexing question. According to the report entitled This is A.A. An Introduction to the A.A.Recovery Program, “There is no formal A.A. definition of alcoholism…” but continues, “It can be described as a physical compulsion, coupled with a mental obsession” (This, 1984, p.9). This quote seems to describe how it feels to be an alcoholic. In the Brief Guide to Alcoholics Anonymous, “As A.A. sees it, alcoholism is an illness” (A brief, 1972, p.6). As the article also mentions, the American Medical Association defines alcoholism as an illness as well. No matter the definition, alcoholism causes numerous problems for the people who experience it.…
Alcoholism is an addiction/disease that may start out just by drinking with friends on the weekends socially. The general alcoholic is one whom starts drinking socially and then recognizes that they are unable to stop like some of their friends. Eventually they begin to develop a tolerance and have to actually drink more to feel the same feelings the felt before. Once they realize they are becoming an alcoholic is when they actually start drinking alone or think that they have to drink just to study for tests. The disease/addiction is telling them they have to study under the influence because the definitely don't make better grades by studying. Most of the time these alcoholics are in denial and it takes something “bad” happening before they realize they have a problem.…
Addiction is an issue that many families find themselves struggling with. The film, Addiction: The family in crisis, discusses many of the issues surrounding addiction and alcoholism in the family. Addiction was described in the film as a “family disease”, meaning not only does addiction and alcoholism effect everyone in the family, everyone also has a role to play in the family dynamics which may perpetuate the behavior of the alcoholic. The most notable position prolonging the addict’s behavior is the person who takes the role of the enabler. This person will keep the alcoholic from seeking help by assisting or supporting them in their habit. The enabler can be a wife, a mother, or a friend, but it is usually someone who cares very much for…
She shared with me that it's been a while that their family had troubles dealing with their mom who was a chronic alcoholic. As long as she can remember, her mom had been an alcoholic, and drinking had become more of a ritual than a hobby.…
Alcoholism is a very dangerous disorder that many people are suffering from. A lot of Americans don’t realize that alcoholism is a big deal, and they may not even know someone very close to them is an alcoholic. For the paper I chose to sit in on an alcohol anonymous meeting and this is what I observed.…
Growing up in an alcoholic family is certainly traumatic. In these homes, children experience a daily environment of inconsistency, chaos, fear, abandonment, denial, and real or potential violence. Survival becomes a full-time job. While most of us know that alcoholism is a disease, too few recognize it as a family disease, which may emotionally, spiritually and often physically, affect, not only the alcoholic but each member of the family. Little emotional energy remains to consistently fulfill the many needs of children who become victims of the family illness. For many years, professional psychologists were barely aware of the vast pool of suffering of the family of alcoholics. They concentrated on healing the alcoholic and felt that it solved the problems of the family as well. Today they realize that the whole family suffers this sickness and all must be made well. By looking at what it is like to live in a alcoholic's home, the side effects, and how to cope with the problem there will be evidence to see how the disease negatively affects the children.…
Parental alcoholism is a form of child mistreatment, many children who grow up in home with an alcoholic parent or parents become alcoholics later in later. Growing up in an alcoholic home promotes unhealthy family relations that negatively affect a children’s’ development that leave children at risk for psychological disorders in childhood, adolescence, and well into their adulthood. Children with alcoholic parents usually do not have a secure attachment with the alcoholic parent or parents and often grow up to have problems with attachments to others well into adulthood. Children of alcoholics are also more likely to experience social, emotional, and behavioral difficulties…
In the article titled “Clinical Validation of Characteristics of the Alcoholic Family”, by Marlene Lindeman and colleagues, the authors discuss the meaning of alcoholism, the defining characteristics of alcoholism and how it effects the family of the alcoholic. According to Lindeman alcoholism is defined as, “a disease that alters intimate relationships within the family and impairs functioning of the nonalcoholic and alcoholic family members”. This article supports the actions that took place in Jeanette’s book, in the way her father, Rex Walls, was a heavy drinker who could not keep a job nor a stable income. Jeanette recalls different times in her life where her father rarely kept a job simply because he did not care for it and got himself…
Adult children of alcoholics became an organization in 1978 in New York (Early History). Originally used to talk about adults who were all raised by alcoholics, and showed similar tendencies and traits. Children of Alcoholics are at a higher risk of becoming an alcoholic ranging from 2 to 4 times more likely, as well as being at a higher risk of marrying into alcoholic families (Adult Children of Alcoholics). There are roughly “28.6 million COAs in the U.S.; 6.6 million are under the age of 18” (Adult Children of Alcoholics), experiencing this problem may feel overwhelmingly isolating, however, the problem is a widespread issue involving many more people than one may think. Aside from tendencies and behaviors learned from being raised from alcoholics, ACoA’s learn similar lessons from their families that follow them throughout their lifetime.…
“If your ready to admit you have a drinking problem, you have already taken the first step”(Smith pg.4 Para 3) Almost anyone who suffers from a drinking problem chooses not to believe that it is a problem this is in other words known as denial. Alcoholics will push anyone away to get their fix. That’s what they think there life will seem better. Also no one wants to be told that they have a problem or need to talk about it. “The definition of alcoholism incorporated “denial” as a major concept for the first time. Denial includes a number of psychological maneuvers by the drinker to avoid the fact that alcohol is the cause of his or her problems” (Gale pg.1 Para 1) What happens is family and friends get dragged into these issues because they make excuses for the alcoholic or enable them to do things they know they shouldn’t. Denial is one of the biggest factors in recovery.…
According to recent studies alcoholism is a disease that affects not only the addicted person but it also affects their families as well. Many children who grow up in homes where one or both parents are alcoholics or abuse alcohol will in time need to have help in sorting out all of the issues associated with a parent or parents that abuse alcohol. Sometimes children of alcoholics are physically, sexually and emotionally abused. Even when there is no outward abuse the child growing up in an alcoholic family suffers damage. Once a parent is on the road to living in an addicted state the need to drink supersedes the ability to care for the child. The children become innocent bystanders unable to make sense of their world. These children may grow…
The effects of alcoholism in a marriage are dramatic and damaging. The mental state and physical well being of the abuser aside, there are significant effects on marriages. The members of the family affected undergo psychological and health trauma accruing from alcohol abuse by either spouse. For instance the sober spouse undergoes a psychological transition from being caring and giving to being addicted to caring for the alcohol abusing partner. It is the nature of all addicts to be liars, making cover ups, committing lies of omission, creating excuses, denial of their habit and blaming others for their addiction. The cause effect trend of this scenario complicates the children’s social and academic lives therefore further propagating household misery and tension. Marital distress results where marital trouble for instance dispute and quarreling are the order of the day. Lack of or aggressive communication leads to disruption warmth and unity in a marriage thus bottled up feelings of anger and tension in the relationships.…
References: Benton, S.A. (2009). Understanding the high-functioning alcoholic: professional views and personal insights. Westport, CT: Praeger Publisher.…
Alcoholics are psychologically and physical dependent on alcohol and cannot control their drinking. Drinking is the most important part of their life. It is more important than family, friends, job or health. Alcoholics go through withdrawal when they cannot get alcohol.…