“people may compare themselves with others in their immediate environment or in mass media in order to judge their own personal worth (293). Frisby states that individuals compare their selves for various reasons “to determine relative standing on an issue or related ability; emulate behaviors; determine norms; lift spirits or feel better about life and personal situations; and evaluate emotions, personality, and self-worth (292). There is also the upward comparison in which there is a individual who is superior to or better off another individual, but on the other hand “self improvement is the main effect of an upward comparison because the targets serve as role models, teaching and motivating individuals to achieve or overcome similar problems…
In today’s modern culture, many men and women suffer from a variety of psychological disorders such as depression, anxiety and anorexia. Many of these psychological disorders can be prevented if society did not have preset standards for us to follow. For example, our society from an early age tells us that all women have to have a slim waist and be curvy. The controversial issues amongst women and their outward appearance can be found in “The Ugly Truth About Beauty” by Dave Barry as well as “The Pitfalls of Plastic surgery” Camille Paglia. In these two essays both writers put an emphasis on how the media often demoralize women by having preset standards of beauty, that threaten the female identity.…
“Comparison is the thief of joy,” said Theodore Roosevelt. His truth rings out today as multitudes of teenagers and young adults battle epidemics of depression: eating disorders: anxiety disorders: and other mental illnesses. Though chemical imbalances and traumatic events can trigger these plagues of the mind, another media scapegoat exists: insecurity. Insecurity seems like a likely reason for mental illnesses like anxiety and anorexia but behind those surface dwelling insecurities lies another predator lurking in the deep; comparison. Without comparison, insecurity would not exist because no one would have a reason to feel insecure. No ideal portrayal of beauty or the perfect student would trouble young adults since they would not compare themselves to those stereotypes or to others around them. Sinful and…
Things like jealousy, selfishness or peer pressure often lead to faulty situations. In The Crucible by Arthur Miller you can see how even in the play, they get into these mishaps.Victor Hugo says “Society is a republic. WHen an individual tries to lift themselves above others, they are dragged down by the masses, either by ridicule or slander.” This quote is referring to everyday situations where you feel as if you must feel higher than someone else. Weather it be selfishness, jealousy or peer pressure all lead up to wanting to be better than someone. By wanting to be better than someone. If you ever find yourself in a unhappy spot , and thought about it would it have to do with jealousy, selfishness, or peer pressure. The examples I will be…
Margaret Mead has claimed that success is an oppressor and a reinforcement to try things, and be the best. On the one hand; if you lose, you fail, and you can count yourself with the trash to the curb. On the other hand; if you win, you are set above the rest, prized, and admired. Both of which I can believe can be tremendous burdens. We tend to try our hardest, or hide our talents and hate the ones who can easily display them.…
I did not ever before think that there was something wrong with the way I looked. I turned to look at my arms, and then down at my stomach, my thighs...now everything seemed wrong with me. When walking home all I saw were happy, skinny people. Oh how I wished I could look like them and be as happy and confident as they were. Only, if only someone told me that size is not the most important thing about a person, maybe I would have grown up to think otherwise. I knew that people would avoid me, call me lazy, and tell me that I was worthless and disgusting, but one thing they would never tell me is that I am beautiful, and somehow, they always had their justifications. This is exactly what Coleman faced as a child as she describes in her essay “Discrimination at Large”, where people were mostly cruel in dolling out judgement on fat people. “I would prove that I was not just a slob, a blimp, a pig. I would finally escape the unsolicited remarks of strangers ranging from the "polite"--"You would really be pretty if you lost weight"--to the hostile ("Lose weight, you fat slob").” (Coleman, 4). I have been the recipient of this type of judgement, as after that awful comment, I was…
“The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it.” (Albom 42) Here Morrie is speaking about the views culture and media release to us, how it preys upon us. Much of the social media is put out there to prey upon our insecurities, or create them to earn our business. We see this everywhere. Beautiful celebrities are plastered all over the tv, movies, and print, which makes us think that we aren’t attractive if we don’t look like them. You can see how prominent this is simply looking at a magazine cover. The titles for the articles, “The 10 Easy Workout Tips to Get You Slim Fast!”, “How to get Perfect Skin Now”, imply that you aren’t slim, with perfect skin, know how to get a boyfriend, be popular, etc. As Morrie said, you have to see above those and manage to stay confident even when the media is pressuring you not to feel that way.…
1. How congruent is the theory with your truth/personal philosophy? Alfred Adler said, “I would like to stress that the life of the human soul is not a ‘being’ but a ‘becoming’.” In my opinion, this quotation is a perfect summation of both what we have learned about the Adlerian theory and of my own personal philosophy for life. The congruency between my philosophy and the Adlerian theory was immediately apparent, because like Adler, I believe in a holistic and teleological approach to life. Adler believed in a holistic concept of looking at a person as a whole, rather than a sum of its parts unlike what Freud did with his concepts of id, ego, and super ego. With this holistic concept, Adler accounted for genetic and environmental influences on human behavior, but believed a person’s capacity to choose and create his/her own life was more influential on how that person would behave. My personal philosophy on life is very congruent with Adler is this holistic sense, as I am a product of my past including my genetics and my childhood environment. I do believe, however, much more of who am I today and how I act has been decided by the choices I have made.…
How a person looks is often directly related to how they feel about themselves, and this is linked to the social norm. Self-esteem is defined as confidence through self-worth, and for teenage girls in most Western cultures, self-worth is linked to body image. Body image is developed parallel to a number of sociocultural factors, one of which is the edited and unrealistic media images of so-called “ideal women.” The images shown in the media subconsciously effect young girls and lower their self-esteem because they believe that the edited images show what they ought to look like (Clay). The link between body image and self-worth is evident, as is the link between photo-editing and self-esteem. In 2011, the American Medical Association urged the media and businesses to stop retouching models and editing photographs so heavily. They warned “we must stop exposing…
In Garrison Keillor’s fictional town of Lake Wobegon, “all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above average.” (Gregory, 2011). The Lake Wobegon effect is a natural tendency to overestimate one’s capabilities and see oneself as better than others. Research psychologists refer to this tendency as self-enhancement bias and have found evidence for its existence in many domains. Most of us think we’re funnier, smarter, warmer, more honest, or more conscientious than we really are.…
In the essay, “The Globalization of Eating Disorders,” Susan Bordo says images in magazines and other media influence young men and women. In order to be admired by their peers they would have to look like the fashion models in magazines and other media sources. I agree in today’s society these images do influence men and women because men and women are always in competition with one another to be respected, accepted, and admired by their peers. I know this from experience.…
In today's society it seems that everywhere you look, you are pressured into thinking of yourself as inferior. There are signs every where you look telling you that you are not pretty enough, smart enough, thin enough, or that anything you have is not good enough. This ever-present pressure that the media puts on people causes low self-esteem (Tuberose, par 6). When people are stressed out or have low…
I saw some of my peers that I thought were smarter than me as idols. I planned to be just like them and wanted to just be as successful if not more. This is what drove me to be an overachiever in nearly all subjects. Even if I wasn’t exceptionally good at the class I would drive myself to…
After being influenced by a television commercial or a magazine, certain people in the world will purchase an item hoping that the same success shown in the media will be achieved by them as well. The truth of the matter is that this hardly ever happens. Every day, people who feel unattractive wear sensual cologne, and those who are not athletic wear Nike running shoes; mentally, some people may feel an improvement but in reality nothing has changed. Realization of this fact leads to the demise of many individuals' self-pride. The severity of both the mental and physical damage done to the person depends on the case. Some may resort to extreme diets, more unnecessary spending, or a decline in social activity. After being rejected at a local bar despite the bath he took in Polo Sport, he might finally understand that his appearance or personality is the problem, not his…
Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized. Express yourself, whether it is through art, music, writing, etc. Find something you enjoy. Everyone is born with talents and strengths.…